Thankyou Ash and Peanut21.
You are absolutely right.....someone who is actually focussed on the children and who didnt come in when my ex made allegations which totally put the first social worker on my stbx side.
I am sounding more positive however I do have worry in the back of my mind as I have seen it time and time again where when my stbx doesnt get what she wants and she will call the police / invent more lies / add new stuff to her statements / or basically cause problems.
I'm so looking forward to seeing my son and daughter tomorrow however I have that feeling that she could just stop me and once again cause me a terrible weekend without my kids. Hopefully as I've been told by the social worker anything she does now can be used as evidence and be included in the section7 report. I have 2 more meetings with the social worker where he is going to ask me questions for the section 7 report.
I am almost 100% certain the fact my stbx didnt want me to have nights was so that she could claim more from the me via the CMS. She has already said she wants me to pay via the 20% extra option which I've said a big fat No to as there is no reason to and I've been paying into her bank account without issues until she put this claim in. What is great is that the social worker sees and has told her there is nothing to stop nights.
Her solicitor can't do anything as this is official from the social worker.
My stbx is crazy. I was informed via the social worker that she claims I am still trying to show control over her because I have things still in my own home. Some things I can't move a tthe moment and she seems to think she can get me to just move everything. She wasnt happy when I sent back a truck load of stuff that had been sent unanounced and without agreement to my parents home late in the evening.
Ash, the divorce final order (Decree absolute) is what is coming up.
I have emailed her solicitor many times to sort out a mutual date to exchange the financial document but she has not replied. I am now told she will get back to me regarding finacials shortly. I believe financials can be done anytime.
There may be a way that I cant share her pension if we waited until now but to be honest I am not bothered about pensions.
I just want the house and posessions divided and if she wants to stay put, which I hope she will do for the purpose and wellbeing of the children, then she buys me out.
If anyone knows otherwise please let me know.
There are so many things this crazy stbx is doing that I really want the courts to open their eyes too!
You are absolutely right.....someone who is actually focussed on the children and who didnt come in when my ex made allegations which totally put the first social worker on my stbx side.
I am sounding more positive however I do have worry in the back of my mind as I have seen it time and time again where when my stbx doesnt get what she wants and she will call the police / invent more lies / add new stuff to her statements / or basically cause problems.
I'm so looking forward to seeing my son and daughter tomorrow however I have that feeling that she could just stop me and once again cause me a terrible weekend without my kids. Hopefully as I've been told by the social worker anything she does now can be used as evidence and be included in the section7 report. I have 2 more meetings with the social worker where he is going to ask me questions for the section 7 report.
I am almost 100% certain the fact my stbx didnt want me to have nights was so that she could claim more from the me via the CMS. She has already said she wants me to pay via the 20% extra option which I've said a big fat No to as there is no reason to and I've been paying into her bank account without issues until she put this claim in. What is great is that the social worker sees and has told her there is nothing to stop nights.
Her solicitor can't do anything as this is official from the social worker.
My stbx is crazy. I was informed via the social worker that she claims I am still trying to show control over her because I have things still in my own home. Some things I can't move a tthe moment and she seems to think she can get me to just move everything. She wasnt happy when I sent back a truck load of stuff that had been sent unanounced and without agreement to my parents home late in the evening.
Ash, the divorce final order (Decree absolute) is what is coming up.
I have emailed her solicitor many times to sort out a mutual date to exchange the financial document but she has not replied. I am now told she will get back to me regarding finacials shortly. I believe financials can be done anytime.
There may be a way that I cant share her pension if we waited until now but to be honest I am not bothered about pensions.
I just want the house and posessions divided and if she wants to stay put, which I hope she will do for the purpose and wellbeing of the children, then she buys me out.
If anyone knows otherwise please let me know.
There are so many things this crazy stbx is doing that I really want the courts to open their eyes too!