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The beginning of my journey.
- Thread starter JayMC
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Hmm, she sounds like my ex!
Best advice I can give is just sit on this for 48 hours and then worry about it next week. Worst thing you can do is respond negatively/aggressively etc, and then regret it later.
It's just the first shots fired in a long battle I'm afraid, but you'll be fine in the end.
Best advice I can give is just sit on this for 48 hours and then worry about it next week. Worst thing you can do is respond negatively/aggressively etc, and then regret it later.
It's just the first shots fired in a long battle I'm afraid, but you'll be fine in the end.
That's a massive wind up. Don't bite.
Finally had my court application come through, interestingly it makes reference to a social worker not needing to attend but I’m not aware he has one?
Cafcass call tomorrow which I’m not looking forward too!
Anyone got suggestions of what I should include in a position statement? I feel like it would be a duplication of the application and parenting plan?
Cafcass call tomorrow which I’m not looking forward too!
Anyone got suggestions of what I should include in a position statement? I feel like it would be a duplication of the application and parenting plan?
Had the cafcass call, pretty bland compared to what I was expecting standard list of questions asking about the allegations, wasn’t really much interest from them in the child which was a bit odd.
They did say they don’t like her parenting plan of 2 hours per month, it needs to be more. Possibly supervised possibly not, but I’ve found some case law relating to that.
She’s said no to co parenting though because of the allegations, but I don’t see that as a no to 50/50
They did say they don’t like her parenting plan of 2 hours per month, it needs to be more. Possibly supervised possibly not, but I’ve found some case law relating to that.
She’s said no to co parenting though because of the allegations, but I don’t see that as a no to 50/50
She actually hadn’t read the parenting plan, I had to point it out
Still waiting on CAFCASS report, although she indicated she would to give unsupervised contact with an initial short period supervised due to not having seen him (this is assuming the LA checks come back clear which they should).
The supervised period suggested to be with her mother at her mother’s home… which I have said I don’t feel that is appropriate. It would effectively be a hostile atmosphere and put me at risk of further false allegations without a witness.
I have suggested public location and I will take a third party or at my own home with a third party (I may also buy an indoor camera or 3).
I have put forward my position statement ahead of the first hearing on the 30th.
The supervised period suggested to be with her mother at her mother’s home… which I have said I don’t feel that is appropriate. It would effectively be a hostile atmosphere and put me at risk of further false allegations without a witness.
I have suggested public location and I will take a third party or at my own home with a third party (I may also buy an indoor camera or 3).
I have put forward my position statement ahead of the first hearing on the 30th.
Had the cafcass report, not sure how I feel about it. It does list her allegations using the “if true” statement.
My interview section notes - no concerns raised and that’s it, nothing about denying these allegations (which bothers me)
It then states no concerns over contact from connected agencies, stepped contact appropriate, prohibited steps order does not seem appropriate based on info available.
Both parents to attend planning together classes.
However I should note a “surprise occurred yesterday” police attended my place of work to arrest me for an alleged incident reported 6 weeks ago (the day she left)
No evidence offered other than a statement, advised to answer questions so did so. General opinion is that it’s 100% NFA territory I have offered evidence to disprove the events they have not taken up that option.
Despite representation from the solicitor given bail to not contact her ( wasn’t anyway!)
Solicitor has advised to apply to mags to overturn the bail and go after them for wrongful arrest as it did not pass the necessity test as it was 6 weeks old.
Worried this will impact now on the cafcass report ..
My interview section notes - no concerns raised and that’s it, nothing about denying these allegations (which bothers me)
It then states no concerns over contact from connected agencies, stepped contact appropriate, prohibited steps order does not seem appropriate based on info available.
Both parents to attend planning together classes.
However I should note a “surprise occurred yesterday” police attended my place of work to arrest me for an alleged incident reported 6 weeks ago (the day she left)
No evidence offered other than a statement, advised to answer questions so did so. General opinion is that it’s 100% NFA territory I have offered evidence to disprove the events they have not taken up that option.
Despite representation from the solicitor given bail to not contact her ( wasn’t anyway!)
Solicitor has advised to apply to mags to overturn the bail and go after them for wrongful arrest as it did not pass the necessity test as it was 6 weeks old.
Worried this will impact now on the cafcass report ..
Coming to your work is a low blow considering the circumstances buddy, must have been awful. I got paraded up the street in cuff's when they could have parked on the drive or right outside the house. I'm sure these things get done on purpose. Glad you've got a potential way forward with it all
Your ex clearly didn't like the Cafcass report did she? It sounded positive to me if they were just recommending parenting courses as that suggests they found no welfare issues. So your ex decided to try and create some. If she's been looking things up she will know that child arrangements usually get held up until there is NFA. So it could delay things. I like the sound of your solicitor's advice 
Your ex clearly didn't like the Cafcass report did she? It sounded positive to me if they were just recommending parenting courses as that suggests they found no welfare issues. So your ex decided to try and create some. If she's been looking things up she will know that child arrangements usually get held up until there is NFA. So it could delay things. I like the sound of your solicitor's advice
My only hope is that this incident is covered in the cafcass report already it’s actually how I found out about it and then they turned up ..
And yet they still recommend contact so I am hoping that it won’t impact, but I’m expecting her to try and make it.
30th September. NFA not likely before then CPS can take their sweet time
My argument would be cafcass have factored in this allegation in their report, and yet still recommend a period of supervised access.
Police and local authority have issued no concerns as part of the report.
And as the allegation is centred on her (refusing to let her leave
) and that her statement contradicts her application timelines the whole thing is clearly just an exercise to frustrate the contact. 2 seperate solicitors have advised its Got NFA all over it.
30th September. NFA not likely before then CPS can take their sweet time
My argument would be cafcass have factored in this allegation in their report, and yet still recommend a period of supervised access due to length of time I haven’t seen him progressing to unsupervised.
Police and local authority have issued no concerns as part of the report.
And as the allegation is centred on her (refusing to let her leave
) and that her statement contradicts her application timelines the whole thing is clearly just an exercise to frustrate the contact.2 seperate solicitors have advised its Got NFA all over it and that the grounds are highly suspect
Cafcass have also said that her request for a prohibited steps order does not seem proportionate.
I will also bring to the courts attention the contest over bail and unlawful arrest.
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Yes. Because… they don’t want to make the NFA decision because I used to work there.
So they want CPS to make it, the officers lobbied the Sgt for no bail, but he ignored them.
They also made a comment about needing to be open and transparent.
(Essentially confirming they are treating my differently to anyone else)
Have advised them a third party was in the house but they haven’t made contact to speak to him.
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Yes, under no means risk this if you don't have to. My mother-in-law made false allegations against me. Thankfully I have video to conclusively prove she's lying. I still record at handovers for my own protection. Sending strength and wishing you well.
After reading about the police incident, I think their actions were extreme.
What evidence led to the decision to make an arrest?
I would ask for the police disclosures so that you can see what she has said to the police (probably lies) in her statement.
And then you could use her false statement against her.