Back in November 2022 me and my girlfriend at the time had a baby girl. We’d got together around August 2021 and she moved it to my place around February time. My ex fell pregnant within the first month of moving in. Things were good at the time we was happy so we decided to keep the baby and start a family. Our relationship soon took the turn for the worse. The pregnancy was the worse 9 months of my life. This turned very toxic and wasn’t a healthy relationship. Our daughter was born and within a couple weeks when we come back down to earth things turned back to how they was before the birth. I had no choice to end the relationship as it was unfair on our daughter more than anything and I couldn’t live the rest of my life like this. The hardest decision I’ve ever had to make but I know deep down the right one.
Our daughter still very young made things difficult. She needed to be with her Mom at these early stages but also I needed to see her too. We met up at the park for an hour a couple times but then she put a stop to that. She wouldn’t let me see her. Then I was allowed to see her for an hour on a Saturday morning whilst my ex stayed in the room. Things slowly got better in terms of seeing my daughter.
9 months on the relationship between me and my ex is as toxic as ever. I see my daughter 8 hours a week on a Saturday. I was seeing her on a Tuesday after work 3:30-6:30 because I was working local and could get there on time but recently that had had to stop because of working up and down the country I simply cannot commit to it. She recently stopped me from seeing her for a month which I found very difficult. She stopped me from taking her to my niece’s christening cause she don’t like my family. I could right a book on the things she said and done. Never in the best interest of our daughter, just trying to spite me as much as possible.
Things weren’t getting any better so I contacted a mediation company. We’ve had on session and now I’m back to seeing my daughter after my ex had stopped me from seeing her. I’ve been asking for an over night stay for months but she comes up with excuses as to why not. I’ve asked for more time I.e Sundays but she says one Sunday a month is all because Sundays are our daughters day to spend with her grandparents. She has recently asked me to have our daughter back on a Tuesday night knowing full well it’s not possible for me because of work commitments. She told me that for the sake of seeing my child I should start having half a day on Tuesday. I work full time, I have a mortgage, pay my bills and also pay for my daughter. I’m not in a job when I can just pick and choose if I want half a day here and there. I’ve told her it’s not reasonable and to discuss it in mediation in our next appointment.
Unfortunately I know things are going to get better through mediation and I’m not going to be able to see my daughter any more than 8 hours a week. I know she is young but I know I’m more than entitled to be seeing her more.
I’ve spoken to solicitors but also heard horror stories about going to court. I need to go to court but I have my doubts. I’m stuck in what to do. It’d be great if there was someone I could talk to who has been in a similar position to see how they went about things.
The longer this goes on the worst it gets I need to kip it in the bud before she gets older.
Our daughter still very young made things difficult. She needed to be with her Mom at these early stages but also I needed to see her too. We met up at the park for an hour a couple times but then she put a stop to that. She wouldn’t let me see her. Then I was allowed to see her for an hour on a Saturday morning whilst my ex stayed in the room. Things slowly got better in terms of seeing my daughter.
9 months on the relationship between me and my ex is as toxic as ever. I see my daughter 8 hours a week on a Saturday. I was seeing her on a Tuesday after work 3:30-6:30 because I was working local and could get there on time but recently that had had to stop because of working up and down the country I simply cannot commit to it. She recently stopped me from seeing her for a month which I found very difficult. She stopped me from taking her to my niece’s christening cause she don’t like my family. I could right a book on the things she said and done. Never in the best interest of our daughter, just trying to spite me as much as possible.
Things weren’t getting any better so I contacted a mediation company. We’ve had on session and now I’m back to seeing my daughter after my ex had stopped me from seeing her. I’ve been asking for an over night stay for months but she comes up with excuses as to why not. I’ve asked for more time I.e Sundays but she says one Sunday a month is all because Sundays are our daughters day to spend with her grandparents. She has recently asked me to have our daughter back on a Tuesday night knowing full well it’s not possible for me because of work commitments. She told me that for the sake of seeing my child I should start having half a day on Tuesday. I work full time, I have a mortgage, pay my bills and also pay for my daughter. I’m not in a job when I can just pick and choose if I want half a day here and there. I’ve told her it’s not reasonable and to discuss it in mediation in our next appointment.
Unfortunately I know things are going to get better through mediation and I’m not going to be able to see my daughter any more than 8 hours a week. I know she is young but I know I’m more than entitled to be seeing her more.
I’ve spoken to solicitors but also heard horror stories about going to court. I need to go to court but I have my doubts. I’m stuck in what to do. It’d be great if there was someone I could talk to who has been in a similar position to see how they went about things.
The longer this goes on the worst it gets I need to kip it in the bud before she gets older.