Hi all, I am posting here because I’ve just started the court process. I have my paperwork and CAFCASS have emailed me so will no doubt be in touch very soon. I apologise for the long post.
A little about my situation. The ex has taken my kids to another county. From there she’s started a campaign of false and some very serious allegations against me. She’s claiming two of my children have said I’ve been abusing them. One child has said I’ve been verbally abusive the other verbal/physical. All of this is untrue and I was very shocked when I was told this.
From the outset my ex has claimed she believes I’ve been sexually abusing the children. No evidence or ever a word from the children to even raise this suspicion (just her twisted mind trying to alienate me or frighten me in to giving up) and my children know they’re lying but must feel they have no choice so I don’t blame them and never will.
Ex then try’s to pull a stunt to prove I am by getting my youngest to say certain things at preschool. This is a 3 year old how low can you get. SS are involved and discussed this with preschool and have no belief it’s anything to do with me as I’ve had no contact for four months by this time and it’s clearly a learned behaviour. Ex pipes up and says it’s because Dads been doing things to them. She’s not taken seriously of course as it’s obvious it’s nothing to do with me.
One month later, one of my children apparently disclosed I have been sexually abusing him. He refused to say anything more. I’m left with no choice but to go through the courts knowing I’ll face a backlash from her. And boy am I as she’s finally broken my child in to talking to the police. Seems this coincided and happened just as she received the notification from the courts to say that’s where I’m taking it as I’m left with no other option.
So we get to today I’m attending all CIN meetings even extra meetings and asked for CAFCASS intervention/investigation all with SS not listening but SS have finally offered me an advocate whatever that is to help me be heard and my concerns to passed to SS. It seems that anything that comes out my mouth clearly isn’t worth listening to and they’ve already taken a side. SS obviously told me it’s not their job to take sides though seems they have.
Has anyone been in this position with an ex who is willing to stop at nothing to brake you or have you removed and deleted from your Children’s lives. If so can you advise on how you protected yourself and your children from such an evil twisted ex who seems to be able to say and do as she pleases just to get what she wants.
Any help or advise would be appreciated thank you. RJ
A little about my situation. The ex has taken my kids to another county. From there she’s started a campaign of false and some very serious allegations against me. She’s claiming two of my children have said I’ve been abusing them. One child has said I’ve been verbally abusive the other verbal/physical. All of this is untrue and I was very shocked when I was told this.
From the outset my ex has claimed she believes I’ve been sexually abusing the children. No evidence or ever a word from the children to even raise this suspicion (just her twisted mind trying to alienate me or frighten me in to giving up) and my children know they’re lying but must feel they have no choice so I don’t blame them and never will.
Ex then try’s to pull a stunt to prove I am by getting my youngest to say certain things at preschool. This is a 3 year old how low can you get. SS are involved and discussed this with preschool and have no belief it’s anything to do with me as I’ve had no contact for four months by this time and it’s clearly a learned behaviour. Ex pipes up and says it’s because Dads been doing things to them. She’s not taken seriously of course as it’s obvious it’s nothing to do with me.
One month later, one of my children apparently disclosed I have been sexually abusing him. He refused to say anything more. I’m left with no choice but to go through the courts knowing I’ll face a backlash from her. And boy am I as she’s finally broken my child in to talking to the police. Seems this coincided and happened just as she received the notification from the courts to say that’s where I’m taking it as I’m left with no other option.
So we get to today I’m attending all CIN meetings even extra meetings and asked for CAFCASS intervention/investigation all with SS not listening but SS have finally offered me an advocate whatever that is to help me be heard and my concerns to passed to SS. It seems that anything that comes out my mouth clearly isn’t worth listening to and they’ve already taken a side. SS obviously told me it’s not their job to take sides though seems they have.
Has anyone been in this position with an ex who is willing to stop at nothing to brake you or have you removed and deleted from your Children’s lives. If so can you advise on how you protected yourself and your children from such an evil twisted ex who seems to be able to say and do as she pleases just to get what she wants.
Any help or advise would be appreciated thank you. RJ
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