False allegations by partner, advice

[Nanaforsonsjustice]

Thanks, it's odd how they span two dates as my partner reported them on the day of arrest, perhaps some police admin thing?

If she made the statement the next day that may make the date different for some offences.

 

[bristol360]

Coffee wasn't bad actually, I had a fair few

Wish I didn't, couldn't sleep and the guy next door was a lunatic...

 

[Oneofmany]

Was a few in mine too,,,,,, its horrible aint it

 

[bristol360]

Indeed it is. I just couldn't believe she'd do that to me.

 

[bristol360]

I've been looking at family solicitors which I may need to engage, don't want to be caught hopping. Not sure if needed, we are not married and kids are getting close to adulthood so unsure apart from non-mol/occ order can come my way which I'd expect is relatively temporary. Just need to dispose of house and set up CMS.

If she needs to fight for financial stuff she'll need to pay which she'll struggle with as I doubt she'll get legal aid.

I've looked online but it seems to be dominated by big firms with multiple offices....any advice on how to actually find a good one if and when needed?

 

[bristol360]

Hi. Just an update....anyone have any advice on non mol and occupation orders? Is it worth getting a solicitor or barrister for the first hearing?

 

[Nujra Rof]

Welcome to the forum buddy. Sorry to hear you are going through this, most of us here, myself included, have been exactly in your position. I was arrested for child abuse and assault charges which got NFA’d and have my first child arrangements hearing coming up.

Did you give a no comment interview at the police station?

How are you currently able to see your kids? Is it through a third party? I’m guessing you can’t communicate with your ex at all?

I personally wouldn’t bother with a solicitor, I had one for my criminal case and he said not to bother with any pre charge engagement work. Just let the police see what they come back to you with. I doubt you will be able to speed them up.

From now on, start to record everything as you may rely on any evidence later and ideally do things via writing.

Sorry you are going through this, it sucks. Stay strong buddy

Hi JC83 - thought I’d ask - how did the first hearing go?

 

[JC83]

Hi JC83 - thought I’d ask - how did the first hearing go?

First hearing, nothing much happened. Had to stay supervised in a family centre and the judge ordered ex to to file a Scott schedule of allegations and her statement and I was ordered to respond.

Directions hearing was last week. Judge did not deem a fact finding necessary or appropriate on the basis of our statements (I took that as he called ex a liar but couldn’t say it). Ex didn’t want a fact finding either, probably as she would have to be cross examined. Judge said even if ex wanted a fact find he wouldn’t have ordered one. Now got unsupervised time again and a progressing interim order leading to overnights. Ex is claiming she now wants to co-parent, and has said she agrees to 50/50 if I relocate to her part of the country. I’m not hopeful, but we will see as she has already been arguing with my barrister over the wording of the interim order! No s7 ordered either which is massive for me as I’ve had a biased social worker constantly believing ex and wanting me to do a DA perp course all year.

Next hearing is in spring and is a DRA which could possibly be the final hearing. Like I say, I’m not hopeful though given she is already trying to backtrack and argue over minor details in an interim order.

 

[Nujra Rof]

First hearing, nothing much happened. Had to stay supervised in a family centre and the judge ordered ex to to file a Scott schedule of allegations and her statement and I was ordered to respond.

Directions hearing was last week. Judge did not deem a fact finding necessary or appropriate on the basis of our statements (I took that as he called ex a liar but couldn’t say it). Ex didn’t want a fact finding either, probably as she would have to be cross examined. Judge said even if ex wanted a fact find he wouldn’t have ordered one. Now got unsupervised time again and a progressing interim order leading to overnights. Ex is claiming she now wants to co-parent, and has said she agrees to 50/50 if I relocate to her part of the country. I’m not hopeful, but we will see as she has already been arguing with my barrister over the wording of the interim order! No s7 ordered either which is massive for me as I’ve had a biased social worker constantly believing ex and wanting me to do a DA perp course all year.

Next hearing is in spring and is a DRA which could possibly be the final hearing. Like I say, I’m not hopeful though given she is already trying to backtrack and argue over minor details in an interim order.

Thank you for sharing - really interesting to hear