Hi all
I am divorced from Ex wife she left me for another man - we have a 14 year old daughter - I applied for COA and prohibitive steps order Jan 2021 but due to pandemic court delays meant that CAO was not finalised until April 2022. I have 70% care of our daughter, we have a shared care order.
Daughter really dislikes her Mum's new partner and states he is controlling and Mum doesn't spend any time with her. Daughter refuses to see her Mum completely now. I have arranged for them to meet and talk but Mum cant listen and just bullies our daughter stating she is a child and will do as she is told.
Daughter has not seen her Mum for 5 months now and flatly refuses to contact via text, WApp or FB either. This means I am effectively in breach of the CAO but I can honestly say that I have done everything in my power to encourage her to see her Mum. I think every child needs a mother, especially a young girl but I have done everything I can to encourage her and I have failed. Mum tried to prevent me taking her on holiday, stopped her going away with her cheerleader club and tried to stop her taking part in boxing lessons.
Three months ago daughter has asked me if she can go court to speak to the judge and ask that she is not forced to see her Mum. I asked her to give things time and see if they settled. She has returned to me stating she has given it time and feels even more strongly that she does not want contact with her Mum.
I believe I will have to apply to vary the CAO - do you think a judge will change the order? My daughter is very keen to speak to the judge and explain why, but I dont know if she will get that opportunity - does anyone have any advice please?
Thank you
I am divorced from Ex wife she left me for another man - we have a 14 year old daughter - I applied for COA and prohibitive steps order Jan 2021 but due to pandemic court delays meant that CAO was not finalised until April 2022. I have 70% care of our daughter, we have a shared care order.
Daughter really dislikes her Mum's new partner and states he is controlling and Mum doesn't spend any time with her. Daughter refuses to see her Mum completely now. I have arranged for them to meet and talk but Mum cant listen and just bullies our daughter stating she is a child and will do as she is told.
Daughter has not seen her Mum for 5 months now and flatly refuses to contact via text, WApp or FB either. This means I am effectively in breach of the CAO but I can honestly say that I have done everything in my power to encourage her to see her Mum. I think every child needs a mother, especially a young girl but I have done everything I can to encourage her and I have failed. Mum tried to prevent me taking her on holiday, stopped her going away with her cheerleader club and tried to stop her taking part in boxing lessons.
Three months ago daughter has asked me if she can go court to speak to the judge and ask that she is not forced to see her Mum. I asked her to give things time and see if they settled. She has returned to me stating she has given it time and feels even more strongly that she does not want contact with her Mum.
I believe I will have to apply to vary the CAO - do you think a judge will change the order? My daughter is very keen to speak to the judge and explain why, but I dont know if she will get that opportunity - does anyone have any advice please?
Thank you