No need to apologise mate, you have a lot to deal with.
"When you say pending alcohol test results would this be the actual hair strand test or one of the others that don't measure as long a period?"
It would be up to the judge/magistrate to order the tests they believe would assist the court, it could be both. This would need her agreement, they do not strap people down to get a sample. Classic line is if somebody does not do testing "the court is liable to draw its own conclusions." Getting her refusal can be almost as powerful as a terrible result.
"I really want to get this Hair strand test done asap. Could I offer to pay for it myself possibly?"
Yes you can offer to pay for it. If you are certain of the result that might be a good idea. If she dodges a "chronic excessive" result, that could work against you.
It is important to remember that a bad result on hair strand requires very consistent drinking over the period tested. It does not judge big binges. Nor does it measure by degree within a result band. There is no "almost chronic excessive" outcome. Half a bottle of brandy every second day is fine, just as fine as four pints every Friday and Saturday night - no distinction in the result.
Advantage of the peth test is that it would show what has been happening since she was put on notice about her drinking. Hair strand could be explained away as what happened before she turned over a new leaf.
Companies offered bundles with both tests and a report last time I looked.
"To be honest Im not really sure there is a risk of harm to him while at the sisters if the sister is there. But thats not to say I dont think my ex will turn up at her sisters half drunk. Maybe not at the point where shes falling all over the place but it wouldnt suprise me if shes drunk."
I'm not sure you'd be attracted to the idea of a contact centre if there wasn't something that doesn't seem right/safe about the current arrangement. Who do you think the sister would tell if mum was falling all over the place? Aren't you entitled to feel assured she is not turning up half-cut?
"When you say pending alcohol test results would this be the actual hair strand test or one of the others that don't measure as long a period?"
It would be up to the judge/magistrate to order the tests they believe would assist the court, it could be both. This would need her agreement, they do not strap people down to get a sample. Classic line is if somebody does not do testing "the court is liable to draw its own conclusions." Getting her refusal can be almost as powerful as a terrible result.
"I really want to get this Hair strand test done asap. Could I offer to pay for it myself possibly?"
Yes you can offer to pay for it. If you are certain of the result that might be a good idea. If she dodges a "chronic excessive" result, that could work against you.
It is important to remember that a bad result on hair strand requires very consistent drinking over the period tested. It does not judge big binges. Nor does it measure by degree within a result band. There is no "almost chronic excessive" outcome. Half a bottle of brandy every second day is fine, just as fine as four pints every Friday and Saturday night - no distinction in the result.
Advantage of the peth test is that it would show what has been happening since she was put on notice about her drinking. Hair strand could be explained away as what happened before she turned over a new leaf.
Companies offered bundles with both tests and a report last time I looked.
"To be honest Im not really sure there is a risk of harm to him while at the sisters if the sister is there. But thats not to say I dont think my ex will turn up at her sisters half drunk. Maybe not at the point where shes falling all over the place but it wouldnt suprise me if shes drunk."
I'm not sure you'd be attracted to the idea of a contact centre if there wasn't something that doesn't seem right/safe about the current arrangement. Who do you think the sister would tell if mum was falling all over the place? Aren't you entitled to feel assured she is not turning up half-cut?