SJP...ok, here's my advice re your solicitor and instruction.....don't over think matters (eg "Tesco"), don't knee jerk (I know it's hard when tmrw's deadline is approaching) but do take a strategic view. In essence a war is not won by individual battles. If tmrw goes 'wrong' ie you don't have what you should have....that is a battle lost but counts towards winning the war.
You did not do the right thing by emailing the ex's solicitor although I totally understand your action. Instead of saving ££ you have incurred greater ££, because protocol means when sols are appointed they act as intermediaries. You cannot shortcut that.
By taking a step back and considering matters you will get better value from your expenditure.
If tmrw's battle is lost it's a shame for you and your son but the ex's failure is now in your back pocket. Properly documented and therefore produced as evidence at a later date.
While
@Ash and I are at odds re sols, it's always good to have differing views. One day (ha ha) I will be able to reveal all of my views and experiences which I hope will justify my position that being able to instruct is crucial.
It just needs careful thought about what the end game is.
SS.