Hey everyone! I've not been on for a while as been focusing on stuff and now this has just happened, I'd appreciate as much advice as possible!
I've recently had my final hearing which went ok, it's a gradual increase to equal holidays and time with both parents, there's 1 day in it which I'll push for to make it completely equal. It's a lives with order.
A few days after the hearing my ex says she has had a job offer which would be a complete change of location. At the moment we are in South West and the job offer is about 3.5 hours away.
Since being here, me and my daughter have built a community of friends, we are very happy here. But there are cons too, no family here, family are near the job location (so that's a plus) and a few more big cons of staying here which I won't mention, but would be much better without, for my daughter.
The thing is the order is kind of minimal at the moment. It's progressive, but over a long time, which isn't what I hoped for but at least it's building up to equal.
Ex is expecting me to drive back and forth, many hours of driving every week, for the same time with my daughter. Which would be exhausting, and would no doubt affect my daughter too (I'm in exhausted our time together isn't going to be as good) not to mention her being uprooted from her community and friends. (Daughter is 2 and a half) plus making work near impossible.
I've tried to say that it needs to be more fair and equal so my daughter is with me and spends quality time with me and family. So instead of 1 night with me she is with me 3 nights in the week. Which would enable us both to work, and me to travel a lot less, plus way more quality time together. I can't move house yet. It would be a while until I could, but even then, I'd be doing this for the ex mostly, she really wants this job. Me and daughter would benefit too but it would be way more of a struggle for us. Which it isn't at the moment.
Basically I'm willing to do all the driving, I am trying to be reasonable with someone who is being unreasonable and thinks she has all the control. She barely replies to emails, so it's hard to even communicate about all this, but that's how she's been since we met.
Where do I stand legally? She waited to say all this until after the final hearing. Could I apply for my daughter to live with me? What are the chances? What's the best way forward?
If the schedule was more fair I would agree on moving, as I see the benefits, but not as is it as nothing changes for me and my daughter it just makes things harder. Ex is thinking of herself over me and even over our daughter it seems, otherwise she would be communicating more and being more reasonable.
There's loads more to this but I don't want to say details.
Hope all that makes sense my head's in a whirl with it all!
I've recently had my final hearing which went ok, it's a gradual increase to equal holidays and time with both parents, there's 1 day in it which I'll push for to make it completely equal. It's a lives with order.
A few days after the hearing my ex says she has had a job offer which would be a complete change of location. At the moment we are in South West and the job offer is about 3.5 hours away.
Since being here, me and my daughter have built a community of friends, we are very happy here. But there are cons too, no family here, family are near the job location (so that's a plus) and a few more big cons of staying here which I won't mention, but would be much better without, for my daughter.
The thing is the order is kind of minimal at the moment. It's progressive, but over a long time, which isn't what I hoped for but at least it's building up to equal.
Ex is expecting me to drive back and forth, many hours of driving every week, for the same time with my daughter. Which would be exhausting, and would no doubt affect my daughter too (I'm in exhausted our time together isn't going to be as good) not to mention her being uprooted from her community and friends. (Daughter is 2 and a half) plus making work near impossible.
I've tried to say that it needs to be more fair and equal so my daughter is with me and spends quality time with me and family. So instead of 1 night with me she is with me 3 nights in the week. Which would enable us both to work, and me to travel a lot less, plus way more quality time together. I can't move house yet. It would be a while until I could, but even then, I'd be doing this for the ex mostly, she really wants this job. Me and daughter would benefit too but it would be way more of a struggle for us. Which it isn't at the moment.
Basically I'm willing to do all the driving, I am trying to be reasonable with someone who is being unreasonable and thinks she has all the control. She barely replies to emails, so it's hard to even communicate about all this, but that's how she's been since we met.
Where do I stand legally? She waited to say all this until after the final hearing. Could I apply for my daughter to live with me? What are the chances? What's the best way forward?
If the schedule was more fair I would agree on moving, as I see the benefits, but not as is it as nothing changes for me and my daughter it just makes things harder. Ex is thinking of herself over me and even over our daughter it seems, otherwise she would be communicating more and being more reasonable.
There's loads more to this but I don't want to say details.
Hope all that makes sense my head's in a whirl with it all!
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