This morning I attended my FHDRA.
All my dealings with CAFCASS and the court leading up to this has been quite positive.
After listening to CAFCASS present their Welfare Checklist findings the magistrate was supportive of my Child Arrangements Order.
After 30 minutes of very positive dialogue, the magistrate went around those in attendance and asked if they were happy that I could spend every other weekend with my son and an order could be made.
Everyone agreed...that was until they got to my ex.
She began to shout at the court that I used to beat my son black and blue and kick him when he was naughty!!!
Needless to say, everyone in attendance was speechless. Least of all me! The magistrate was unimpressed to put it mildly and queried how these allegations could possibly stand up following the closure of a Child Protection Plan by the local authorities in 2018 with no mention of me beating my own child or CAFCASS completing their Welfare Checks and returning to the Family Court with a glowing assessment of me as a person.
But of course this meant that the court had no choice but to instruct CAFCASS to investigate this latest allegation and set a FFH for September.
My heart obviously sank as I knew that in cases where domestic violence is involved there's no chance of seeing my boy again but the court granted me contact centre visits and a FaceTime call every Monday Evening.
My ex tried to protest and shouted at the magistrate who proceeded to advise her to pipe down or it won't end well for you!
So my head and heart are mixture of continued torment and elation. I was so close to it all being over but in some way's I could benefit from this and it will save me the trouble of taking things down the physiological disorder route as I feel my ex is going to do all the work for me.
All my dealings with CAFCASS and the court leading up to this has been quite positive.
After listening to CAFCASS present their Welfare Checklist findings the magistrate was supportive of my Child Arrangements Order.
After 30 minutes of very positive dialogue, the magistrate went around those in attendance and asked if they were happy that I could spend every other weekend with my son and an order could be made.
Everyone agreed...that was until they got to my ex.
She began to shout at the court that I used to beat my son black and blue and kick him when he was naughty!!!
Needless to say, everyone in attendance was speechless. Least of all me! The magistrate was unimpressed to put it mildly and queried how these allegations could possibly stand up following the closure of a Child Protection Plan by the local authorities in 2018 with no mention of me beating my own child or CAFCASS completing their Welfare Checks and returning to the Family Court with a glowing assessment of me as a person.
But of course this meant that the court had no choice but to instruct CAFCASS to investigate this latest allegation and set a FFH for September.
My heart obviously sank as I knew that in cases where domestic violence is involved there's no chance of seeing my boy again but the court granted me contact centre visits and a FaceTime call every Monday Evening.
My ex tried to protest and shouted at the magistrate who proceeded to advise her to pipe down or it won't end well for you!
So my head and heart are mixture of continued torment and elation. I was so close to it all being over but in some way's I could benefit from this and it will save me the trouble of taking things down the physiological disorder route as I feel my ex is going to do all the work for me.