Hello,
I want to extend my weekly contact with my 1 year old daughter. I had to take my ex to court to even see her at all. My ex denied access for the following 2 reasons
1. I wanted to be on my daughters birth certificate and 2 I also didn't want her new partner present when I saw my daughter.
Anyway we got to court on the 8th June last year the order is below (I've removed my daughters name from it and put it as "M")
Contact order
6.
The mother must make sure that the child spends time with the father as follows;
a. Supported at a contact centre for eight sessions, the first four of which to last one hour and sessions
five to eight lasting up to two hours.
b. Following the eight contact centre sessions, weekly in the community for up to three hours. The
paternal grandfather to collect and return "M" to the mother.
c. The above arrangements may be altered, varied or extended by mutual agreement of the parties.
Contact shall progress beyond what is stipulated in 6(b) in line with "M" pace and development.
So we did the 8 weeks out of the centre as she decided she couldn't afford it even though in court she would pay half. We are now up to 5 hours weekly in the community. I started seeing my daughter on the 31st July 2023. I've suggested to my ex partner that we go up in 2 hours increments every 4 weeks she has declined this as "she" not our daughter but she isn't ready for that. I maintain the belief that it shouldn't be if she is ready but it should be if our daughter is ready and I would say she is. I also want to take my daughter to my home town roughly 100 miles away from where I currently live and where the mother lives as well. This request has been denied as she doesn't want to let me have my daughter for a day as a 1 off to make the trip. She is taking our daughter over 2000 miles away to another country in March for a week. My ex partner has also said twice now that she will not allow our daughter to stay over night at mine in case she gets "raped abused or neglected" which is a baseless insinuation.
We are trying meditation however I fear its not going to work as my ex has said a few times now that she isn't changing her mind on any of the points above.
So I may have to apply to change the order to include what I've said above. It also says in the order that its expected that should I be consistent with my visits I'm to be given PR however my ex partner is delaying this process as well. We completed all the paper work and we got the authority from the general register office to add me to the birth certificate all we have to do is make a appointment to add me to it but she won't.
If I do have to go to court again I don't know if id be successful or not and this time I wont qualify for legal aid as I'm in a better job now although currently off sick Also last time I didn't have a solicitor and this time I really want one but I have no way of affording one, any advice on all the points I've mentioned here would be gratefully received
Thanks in advance.
I want to extend my weekly contact with my 1 year old daughter. I had to take my ex to court to even see her at all. My ex denied access for the following 2 reasons
1. I wanted to be on my daughters birth certificate and 2 I also didn't want her new partner present when I saw my daughter.
Anyway we got to court on the 8th June last year the order is below (I've removed my daughters name from it and put it as "M")
Contact order
6.
The mother must make sure that the child spends time with the father as follows;
a. Supported at a contact centre for eight sessions, the first four of which to last one hour and sessions
five to eight lasting up to two hours.
b. Following the eight contact centre sessions, weekly in the community for up to three hours. The
paternal grandfather to collect and return "M" to the mother.
c. The above arrangements may be altered, varied or extended by mutual agreement of the parties.
Contact shall progress beyond what is stipulated in 6(b) in line with "M" pace and development.
So we did the 8 weeks out of the centre as she decided she couldn't afford it even though in court she would pay half. We are now up to 5 hours weekly in the community. I started seeing my daughter on the 31st July 2023. I've suggested to my ex partner that we go up in 2 hours increments every 4 weeks she has declined this as "she" not our daughter but she isn't ready for that. I maintain the belief that it shouldn't be if she is ready but it should be if our daughter is ready and I would say she is. I also want to take my daughter to my home town roughly 100 miles away from where I currently live and where the mother lives as well. This request has been denied as she doesn't want to let me have my daughter for a day as a 1 off to make the trip. She is taking our daughter over 2000 miles away to another country in March for a week. My ex partner has also said twice now that she will not allow our daughter to stay over night at mine in case she gets "raped abused or neglected" which is a baseless insinuation.
We are trying meditation however I fear its not going to work as my ex has said a few times now that she isn't changing her mind on any of the points above.
So I may have to apply to change the order to include what I've said above. It also says in the order that its expected that should I be consistent with my visits I'm to be given PR however my ex partner is delaying this process as well. We completed all the paper work and we got the authority from the general register office to add me to the birth certificate all we have to do is make a appointment to add me to it but she won't.
If I do have to go to court again I don't know if id be successful or not and this time I wont qualify for legal aid as I'm in a better job now although currently off sick Also last time I didn't have a solicitor and this time I really want one but I have no way of affording one, any advice on all the points I've mentioned here would be gratefully received
Thanks in advance.