These non mols happen a lot. So what stage is it at now? Is the 4 hrs a week supervised an interim order or a final order? As in do you have any more hearings coming up? Two years is a long time and it's stories like this that make good Judges frustrated - the system has allowed things to drag on. Delay is the tactic used by a parent trying to prevent you seeing the kids. I think they just hope you'll give up and go away.
If you have another hearing coming up you could get things changed. If the fact find was also a final hearing, there is the option to appeal (but there's a time limit) or wait a bit and apply to vary and go full on in there with the history and what has happened. I think if it was me I'd do the latter as an appeal might not get anywhere because you need permission to appeal I think.
we have 3 non mols, all 3 combined into 3 consecutive days fact finding hearings in april 2022 with i hope the same judge from october 2021, ex's ex boyfriend has been summoned in person by the judge looking into our case. the ex boyfriend has allegations of her recording court hearings and has allegations that my ex wife and her family are planning gbh / abh on me, proof of perjury and allegations of her being in contempt of court..
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June 2018 - split
Nov 2018 apply for contact and met with usual farcical allegations, fake to the max, then eventually .... in
Sept 2019 - granted supervised visits with gradual plan
Sept 2019, car set on fire by ex's family
supervised visits werent working out due to mother deliberately not making it easy
my house windows smashed (by hired thugs in london) on five occasions on weekends where i would visit daughter in contact centre
Dec 2019 i apply for variation (for changes in orders to help me with my supervision sessions child father bonding etc), hearing set for Mar 2020
Mar 2020 Covid, hearings vacated and then eventually heard June 2020
3rd July NMO ex parte by the ex wife, to ultimately put a big stop on my variation application
20th july 2020 arrested on suspicion of breach of non mol
31st july 2020, first NMO hearing, contesting NMO, rejected because im arrested 10 days ago and released under investigation, direction hearing set for Jan 2021 and ex are instrfucted to send documents to me and court by nov 2020
October 2020 CAO variation hearing, due to NMO, stop direct contact altogether
Nov 2020 Arrested again for same allegations
Jan 2021, i didnt receive any papers (i think even if i did chase them up i would have been ignored , those FF*ers)
Jan 2021 hearing and FFH cancelled and DRA postponed to April 2021 solely due to me not receiving papers, the ex's lawyers made up some BS
Feb 2021, invited down to nick for volountary interview, same allegations
April 2021 DRA, recorder listens to both sides and says, right we need a fact finding hearing, earliest is Oct 2021
July 2021, arrested again for the same usual rubbish.
I had to take a NMO against her as the threats etc were increasing against me, July 2021 onwards, all incidents reported to police, application was also backed by police.
Come Oct 2021, judge reinstates indirect whatsapp call contact (non productive my daughter doesnt even come to the phone and ive heard my kid already say on a few occasions 'daddy yucky, dont want to talk to dad, dont want to see dad'), judge is made aware of 1. my NMO against my ex wife, 2. the ex wife's ex boyfriends NMO against her and summons her ex BF and postpones for another FFH in April 2022 stating if nothing is found, CAO variation/direct contact to be reinstated and whether to esclate criminal matters re: purjurey, contempt of court, GBH/ABH matters to criminal court. I think 'jack' will happen!
direct contact was terminated in October 2020 when my ex wife's non mol from July 2020 was combined with my CAO variation hearing October 2020 (yeah they timed that well and its been dragging on since then, theyve been serving papers late, by the time we get to hearings, either witness statement papers havent been served to me in time and the hearings are then postponed by 6 months or if they have been served then the judge will then order police reports or want to call people in or get cafcass involved. the system is f'cked as in proper f'cked.
we've got 1 year non mols lasting 2 years PLUS potentially based on people cheating the system, this non mol shouldnt have lasted 1 year in the first instance as they dont have any evidence or anything to substantiate the allegations in july 2020 WTF. this whole thing frustrates me, oh i wish i could go back in time and dumped the ex in time.
my variation will include, mother to be more co-operative with specifics (off course they will counter by saying it is oppression and too instructive)
i will ask for contact to take place in MK or somewhere between london and birmingham, in the middle, my kid is 4.5 years old now, she can travel
i will ask for cafcass support, and for contact to restart in a cafcass centre rather than an independent, cafcass have more authority in regards to these situations compared to the independent early years social workers.
the day 'karma' is served on the ex wife especially by act of god (as there are no limits), is the day i will proibably find retribution for everything she and her family have done to me and my family.
FFS!. what a life!
at the moment no direct contact at all. it probably will start from scratch, by wich time i propably wouild have lost all motivation for this crap.
who do you blame? the system itself or the charlatan MF*erz who abuse this F*d-up system