Today has been the most difficult day of my life.
I divorced my children’s mum 7 years ago, at which point she alleged domestic abuse. Our boys were 1&2.
Roll on 4 years, and I successfully varied the alternate weekend order to a 50/50 week on week off. I relocated away from family, gave up my job and career and was best positioned to support my boys.
Then….everything went bad. Mum became relentless with her messaging to the boys, which included the judge was wrong, you’re not supposed to see your dad, he stole all my stuff, he was abusive to me.
I did everything in my power to get the boys support through the school and private family therapy. Mum did not give consent once the feedback was positive about their emotions in both homes.
Fast forward to today. Mum has alleged abuse to the police and so children’s services assessing the case. The children have been manipulated so badly, that they are saying they never want to see their dad again and they’re too scared to enter his home. The social worker actually lied in court that she had never received reports from the therapist (I was copied in and she had it!!) and then claimed…”oh. It’s just come in this second” during the hearing. She also denied a conversation with me and my partner that the only things the boys did not like was being physically separated when they fight.
Needless to say, the court have sided with the recommendation and I now have just 3 hours supervised contact per week.
Where on earth do I go next? I’m truly devastated.
I divorced my children’s mum 7 years ago, at which point she alleged domestic abuse. Our boys were 1&2.
Roll on 4 years, and I successfully varied the alternate weekend order to a 50/50 week on week off. I relocated away from family, gave up my job and career and was best positioned to support my boys.
Then….everything went bad. Mum became relentless with her messaging to the boys, which included the judge was wrong, you’re not supposed to see your dad, he stole all my stuff, he was abusive to me.
I did everything in my power to get the boys support through the school and private family therapy. Mum did not give consent once the feedback was positive about their emotions in both homes.
Fast forward to today. Mum has alleged abuse to the police and so children’s services assessing the case. The children have been manipulated so badly, that they are saying they never want to see their dad again and they’re too scared to enter his home. The social worker actually lied in court that she had never received reports from the therapist (I was copied in and she had it!!) and then claimed…”oh. It’s just come in this second” during the hearing. She also denied a conversation with me and my partner that the only things the boys did not like was being physically separated when they fight.
Needless to say, the court have sided with the recommendation and I now have just 3 hours supervised contact per week.
Where on earth do I go next? I’m truly devastated.