we are still going for half day reading, half day cross exaamine ex, half day cross examine me, half day for judgement = 2 days.
they were supposed to cross examine ex's ex (who she denied knowing at all then changed her story to 'i do know him' but deny knowing him intimately...) but i dont think he's turning up, theres been no sign of him since 2021.
just a matter of staying calm... no doubt i'll be asked ridiculous questions regarding false allegations... i'll gritting my teeth the whole way.,
you sure the judge didnt book the 3rd day off... it is sunny and warm down south,
Will your ex have a barrister?
If so, it is a little more than staying calm. Barristers are very good at creating a situation where whatever you say can be set to their purpose. When you are cross examined, I suggest you:
Ask for the question to be repeated if you are unclear
Take notes on questions as they are asked
Refuse to answer compound questions. Ask the barrister to repeat piece by piece.
Ask the judge or magistrate to provide guidance if you are confused by the barristers behaviour.
Pause and think before you answer. Barristers like to lay traps by sneaking untruths into questions you accept and coming back to them an hour later. If there is an error in the question, address it. Do not answer until it is resolved. As a really simple example, I was asked to read a part of the bundle which reflected poorly on me. I was then asked to explain how I account for the Social Services report on my character and motivation. The title of the section I was asked to read was "Analysis." It was written by a manager I never spoke to. It analysed an investigation I elected not to engage with. So, my answer was: "it is not a report, it is an analysis written by somebody who has never spoken to me."
Do not listen when the barrister tells you they do not want to hear your answer. They will try to speak over you with a haughty authority if you get on to the stuff they know will damage your ex's case: "sorry, I have not finished answering. My answer relies on this information."
Have the bundle clear in your head. Be ready to refer to it as necessary. Use cross examination as your opportunity to give evidence. Pull everyone's attention to documents that the other side does not want to be a focus.