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So I finally received the position statement from the mom, full of lies again, some fabricated from what the cafcass officer understood. (I can tell she didn’t get what I was trying to say). So back to preparation for the first hearing and the joys. Let’s see how it goes on MondayMy position has been sent, Hers we will find out at first hearing
She is from Poland. In order for her to move, it has to be beneficial for our daughter and I think on top of my head can list a few main reasons why it’s not good.Cafcass are invariably biased towards the Mother in a section 7 with allegations involved from Dad. However if their report is biased and unfavourable to you you can have it undermined at final hearing by having the Cafcass officer cross examined.
One way to get their report dismissed is if they only saw the child with the Mother and not with both of you.
Why the heck should your ex be allowed to move to Poland? Is she from there and wanting to go back? It’s possible the court may allow that - rather than force her to stay in the U.K. - but if they do I would still go for 50/50. It’s perfectly feasible to have that from abroad - it’s been ordered in other cases (rarely perhaps because not that common to live in different countries). It would mean most of the school holidays with you.
A proposal for relocation will come and I will have to document why not and plan for if it’s allowed or not. The effect on the mom of not going to poland.Also to explain what’s the plan for our daughter when she staysQuick reply. Judge sounds on the ball. Your ex barrister is trying to win the case for her and ramping up the idea there is conflict between parents (knowing Cafcass give minimal time to Dads if there is conflict between both). And all the other excuses.
The whole conflict between parents thing is a tricky issue. Usually the conflict is one sided - the ex. And it’s why we always advise to keep all communication polite and courteous - so you have evidence that you are the child focused one trying to co parent respectfully, and she is the hostile one creating conflict for the child.
Cafcass jump on the “conflict between parents” wagon if both parents make allegations as however true the PA might be they see it as you attacking the Mother. It’s their logic. If ex makes allegations they might be true because you’re a man. If you make allegations ex might be right again because you’re attacking her by accusing her of something. It’s skewed logic.
However a barrister can claim PA and it not be seen in the same way - or they can do it with authority. An LIP Dad does it and it looks personal.
I think you’ve done quite well for a first hearing and extra time.
If it went straight to final hearing you’d do well I think (and Cafcass out of the picture by then).
What’s happening next though? A section 7? That can be a good thing and you can sway Cafcass with the opportunity to have a more in depth chat. But it’s really important bro keep sounding child focused. So rather than saying - ex is alienating. Say - really concerned for daughter as the negativity she is exposed to is damaging her relationship with you. It’s saying the same thing bit rather than an accusation it’s showing concern for child’s well-being.
As you can see it’s very broad. Not sure what to make out of this. I might need help of how to deal with thisA proposal for relocation will come and I will have to document why not and plan for if it’s allowed or not. The effect on the mom of not going to poland.Also to explain what’s the plan for our daughter when she stays
Section 7 has been asked to contain:
A. Daughter’s wishes and feeling as far as they can be ascertained
b. The impact of her parents’ separation on Daughter and the impact of the disjointed child arrangements so far
c. how arrangements have progressed since the order was made
d. the emotional physical and educational needs of Daughter
e. Any risk of harm in terms of a breakdown of arrangements
f. The impact on Daughter of the proposed relocation
g. The impact on Daughter of a refusal of the proposed relocation.
that's really bad news. The mother wants me to move to germany or poland and then do weekends or holidays in her family house. I am going to stick with the 50/50 in the UK. I don't believe relocation is actually good for daughter since she will lose lots of advantages of living in the uk and having time with her dad.My thoughts on the above are that Cafcass are considering approving the move abroad. It hints that things haven’t been going well since separation and ordered arrangements. It hints that daughter’s feelings may not be that ascertainable (regardless of what she says) - suggesting that decisions will be made in her interests rather than her wishes. It hints that not approving the move may negatively affect daughter (actually it wouldn’t- it would only affect your ex).
On the other hand it’s fairly non committal and vague at this stage so a lot might come down to the Judge. But Cafcass do tend to be a bit biased towards Mothers in my view - especially if there is a chance she might lose residency.
So if ex was told she could move but if she did daughter would remain with you and spend time with her in holidays - that is effectively saying either she can’t move or she loses residency.
So they look at who is the “main” parent or suitable to be the main one.
There is unfortunately solid case law that says it’s a Mother’s human right to live wherever she wants. And it is almost always approved - if it’s a U.K. move. Unless it can be proved that she is only moving to intentionally disrupt child’s relationship with you, rather than a solid reason like a job offer or to live near family.
Abroad is a bigger issue but the principle is the same. This leaves a discrepancy between the Mothers human rights and the child’s rights to significant time with both parents. And the case law generally favours the Mothers rights. There is other more recent case law that argues against that (don’t know it off the top of my head but a Barrister would). Which is when it can take a Barrister to swing the case your way by strongly persuasive use of case law which a Judge has to consider when making a decision.
Cafcass will always think a child is better off living with a Mother - but presumably you can argue that your daughter has only ever lived in the U.K. and has a solid life and relationships here. Even so Cafcass may feel the relationship with the Mother outweighs everything else.
I’m not sure what you applied for - presumably prohibited steps to prevent your daughter being moved out of the country- or for daughter to live with you if the Mother moves. I would stick with that but be prepared to negotiate for a 50/50 order if she moves abroad.
The way that would work is child lives with one parent during term time and the other one for most of the school holidays. It could be either way round and you’d need to think which to argue for.
Or residency with you could be similar. Eg child lives with you but spends time with Mother on a near 50/50 basis (ie most of the school holidays). The care time os term time.
A 50/50 order though comes across as a compromise rather than either parent having sole residency (and more power ultimately).
Oh I see what you meant about the order. This is part of the order from the judge last Monday after the First Hearing. She has re-establish overnight immediately (this weekend) and temporary child arrangements in the form of overnights during the weekend at suggestion from Cafcass. in the instruction with Cafcass is asking how the new arrangements have worked so far (till they do the report, I guess in October).My thoughts on the above are that Cafcass are considering approving the move abroad. It hints that things haven’t been going well since separation and ordered arrangements. It hints that daughter’s feelings may not be that ascertainable (regardless of what she says) - suggesting that decisions will be made in her interests rather than her wishes. It hints that not approving the move may negatively affect daughter (actually it wouldn’t- it would only affect your ex).
On the other hand it’s fairly non committal and vague at this stage so a lot might come down to the Judge. But Cafcass do tend to be a bit biased towards Mothers in my view - especially if there is a chance she might lose residency.
So if ex was told she could move but if she did daughter would remain with you and spend time with her in holidays - that is effectively saying either she can’t move or she loses residency.
So they look at who is the “main” parent or suitable to be the main one.
There is unfortunately solid case law that says it’s a Mother’s human right to live wherever she wants. And it is almost always approved - if it’s a U.K. move. Unless it can be proved that she is only moving to intentionally disrupt child’s relationship with you, rather than a solid reason like a job offer or to live near family.
Abroad is a bigger issue but the principle is the same. This leaves a discrepancy between the Mothers human rights and the child’s rights to significant time with both parents. And the case law generally favours the Mothers rights. There is other more recent case law that argues against that (don’t know it off the top of my head but a Barrister would). Which is when it can take a Barrister to swing the case your way by strongly persuasive use of case law which a Judge has to consider when making a decision.
Cafcass will always think a child is better off living with a Mother - but presumably you can argue that your daughter has only ever lived in the U.K. and has a solid life and relationships here. Even so Cafcass may feel the relationship with the Mother outweighs everything else.
I’m not sure what you applied for - presumably prohibited steps to prevent your daughter being moved out of the country- or for daughter to live with you if the Mother moves. I would stick with that but be prepared to negotiate for a 50/50 order if she moves abroad.
The way that would work is child lives with one parent during term time and the other one for most of the school holidays. It could be either way round and you’d need to think which to argue for.
Or residency with you could be similar. Eg child lives with you but spends time with Mother on a near 50/50 basis (ie most of the school holidays). The care time os term time.
A 50/50 order though comes across as a compromise rather than either parent having sole residency (and more power ultimately).