We have been going through the divorce process for some months and have not yet told our kids (7&10).
Wife is insisting on telling them soon, but i am concerned that this will be a method to alienate the kids against me. There have been some milder forms of coercion, but our relationship is increasingly strained, and i am worried that informing the kids is a way to start to turn them against me. As i have moved a long way from home, i don't have much of a support network or family around, whereas wife has a large family close by. I am worried that once the kids know about the divorce, wife's family will be able to repeat negative comments about me and start to alienate the kids.
Any advice on how we inform the kids and minimise any negative feelings towards me.
Wife is insisting on telling them soon, but i am concerned that this will be a method to alienate the kids against me. There have been some milder forms of coercion, but our relationship is increasingly strained, and i am worried that informing the kids is a way to start to turn them against me. As i have moved a long way from home, i don't have much of a support network or family around, whereas wife has a large family close by. I am worried that once the kids know about the divorce, wife's family will be able to repeat negative comments about me and start to alienate the kids.
Any advice on how we inform the kids and minimise any negative feelings towards me.