Hi
Not posted much but this forum really has been a great source of information and help in getting my head round this very unneccescary situation we all find ourselves in.
So primary school placements were announced yesterday, she did text me the school he has been allocated, however i had asked her before to send a copy or photo of the letter received when she found out, of course that was ignored. I'd also asked a few months ago for her to send me a copy of the filled in application, again ignored. My reason for asking was that I dont trust her, I wasnt asked for any involvement with school choices just sent the final list (I didnt have a problem with choices, bar one which would have been difficult for both of us to get to, but that was near bottom of the list), and I'm concerned she wants to register our son under her surname as a 'known as' name. His birth certificate has my name and I have parental responsibility. He does regularly say his name is xxxx followed by her surname, so clearly she has been telling him this, hes far too young to really understand so I dont confuse him by telling him otherwise. Am I entitled to see these documents at this stage to nip it in the bud or am I gonna have to wait til school starts and deal with it then?
Brief background - Separated 2 years, we live within a mile of each other. Currently see son twice a week, one overnight per fortnight, been trying to progress this for nearly a year, she now wants to restrict to every other weekend only, but still just one night and reduce the brief weekday time even more. I'm seeking shared care on the basis of being marginalised in any decisions about our son and I'm obviously looking for far more sensible arrangements. Problem I've got is she has a very controlling mother who since the day he was born has viewed herself as the other parent, and has been dicating the terms behind the scenes since separation, so after receiving a solicitors letter trying to restrict time further, I've been left no choice but to go court.
Currently awaiting date for FHDRA, cafcass call done, position statements done for review hearing, and the predictable allegations have arrived!
I think she's trying to keep my involvement in his schooling to an absolute minimum
Not posted much but this forum really has been a great source of information and help in getting my head round this very unneccescary situation we all find ourselves in.
So primary school placements were announced yesterday, she did text me the school he has been allocated, however i had asked her before to send a copy or photo of the letter received when she found out, of course that was ignored. I'd also asked a few months ago for her to send me a copy of the filled in application, again ignored. My reason for asking was that I dont trust her, I wasnt asked for any involvement with school choices just sent the final list (I didnt have a problem with choices, bar one which would have been difficult for both of us to get to, but that was near bottom of the list), and I'm concerned she wants to register our son under her surname as a 'known as' name. His birth certificate has my name and I have parental responsibility. He does regularly say his name is xxxx followed by her surname, so clearly she has been telling him this, hes far too young to really understand so I dont confuse him by telling him otherwise. Am I entitled to see these documents at this stage to nip it in the bud or am I gonna have to wait til school starts and deal with it then?
Brief background - Separated 2 years, we live within a mile of each other. Currently see son twice a week, one overnight per fortnight, been trying to progress this for nearly a year, she now wants to restrict to every other weekend only, but still just one night and reduce the brief weekday time even more. I'm seeking shared care on the basis of being marginalised in any decisions about our son and I'm obviously looking for far more sensible arrangements. Problem I've got is she has a very controlling mother who since the day he was born has viewed herself as the other parent, and has been dicating the terms behind the scenes since separation, so after receiving a solicitors letter trying to restrict time further, I've been left no choice but to go court.
Currently awaiting date for FHDRA, cafcass call done, position statements done for review hearing, and the predictable allegations have arrived!
I think she's trying to keep my involvement in his schooling to an absolute minimum