Another issue... again!
So contact order was revised and all sorted, ex gets some extra time on a friday to spend quality time with my child and a couple of additional weekends in the year as I get every weekend.
Now, birthday parties has become an issue - I said I'm happy to take our child to some, but with how things have been it's not been possible due to a number of reasons and in part because I'm pretty sure I've been bad mouthed to all the other parents and I suffer from quite bad anxiety around that, but that's just a small part.
I offered to swap a day so they could go to the party which was fine; I also suggested for others that if a party is at weekend then they could go but we'd swap the few hours to another day, this was fine but then the time due was offered on a day I'm working with less than 2 days notice so just isn't possible, I was then offered the time back in 6 months (summer) not sure why when Easter holidays are first but that's not even mentioned.
I'd also previously suggested an evening during the week as another example, but this is a no because of their work commitments and nursery timings so the time available is tight etc, they've also apparently already taken a lot of time off work already so can't take more - I don't get told anything but certain my child isnt in nursery on a Friday but still, no word or suggestion... only me that has to make all the alternative offers; they also mention 'what happens for school trips' yet havent told me what school my child will be going to or given me any information about that.
I'm now being threatened if I don't do something then they'll have to get legal advice as the situation needs to be sorted but it just appears I've to bend to their committments, no interest in my work commitments or other plans; when contact order was being redone I even offered every other weekend if I got some mid week time but that was refused by them as well.
Am I being unreasonable? Will a judge really say I have to go to all these parties when I've suggested other alternatives where I can't manage?
I'm not trying to be deliberately difficult but I feel I'm being emotionally blackmailed as I always have to make concessions or be flexible and they are never in return so I've had enough - but as soon as I'm like that then it's used against me
So contact order was revised and all sorted, ex gets some extra time on a friday to spend quality time with my child and a couple of additional weekends in the year as I get every weekend.
Now, birthday parties has become an issue - I said I'm happy to take our child to some, but with how things have been it's not been possible due to a number of reasons and in part because I'm pretty sure I've been bad mouthed to all the other parents and I suffer from quite bad anxiety around that, but that's just a small part.
I offered to swap a day so they could go to the party which was fine; I also suggested for others that if a party is at weekend then they could go but we'd swap the few hours to another day, this was fine but then the time due was offered on a day I'm working with less than 2 days notice so just isn't possible, I was then offered the time back in 6 months (summer) not sure why when Easter holidays are first but that's not even mentioned.
I'd also previously suggested an evening during the week as another example, but this is a no because of their work commitments and nursery timings so the time available is tight etc, they've also apparently already taken a lot of time off work already so can't take more - I don't get told anything but certain my child isnt in nursery on a Friday but still, no word or suggestion... only me that has to make all the alternative offers; they also mention 'what happens for school trips' yet havent told me what school my child will be going to or given me any information about that.
I'm now being threatened if I don't do something then they'll have to get legal advice as the situation needs to be sorted but it just appears I've to bend to their committments, no interest in my work commitments or other plans; when contact order was being redone I even offered every other weekend if I got some mid week time but that was refused by them as well.
Am I being unreasonable? Will a judge really say I have to go to all these parties when I've suggested other alternatives where I can't manage?
I'm not trying to be deliberately difficult but I feel I'm being emotionally blackmailed as I always have to make concessions or be flexible and they are never in return so I've had enough - but as soon as I'm like that then it's used against me