That is very useful for everyone Hacked off Dad. For me it's either - do it alone or use a barrister. I don't trust solicitors any more either. There are some good ones but they are hard to find. Unless you have money. For people with plenty of money, using a good solicitor and barrister team makes your life easier. Solicitors like people with money who don't mind lots of bills being run up. I have had three bad experiences with solicitors. The last one was the best of the bunch and very good in some ways - but very bad in others (far too many mistakes, which funnily enough, led to me running up another large bill). On one occasion I objected to some things charged for and asked them to recalculate the bill. I got an abrupt response saying I had to pay the bill or they could go further with it, so it had to be paid and then query anything afterwards. Not good. Of course once they have the money it's very difficult to get any kind of refund.
You're right, we are in a vulnerable situation, desperate even, and need help. The legal profession are logical and doing a job in a fairly rubbish system with a bias and the bias is still - Mum's have residency of kids - you're a secondary parent - the attitude is awful.
I did read some very good advice somewhere to not fall into the trap of using a solicitor as a counsellor as you'll just run up bills. Get a counsellor for support through it (and this can be free with a GP referral - there's a waiting list but if you say you're willing to accept a cancellation and short notice appointment it can be quite quick). So a sympathetic solicitor might be - well, sympathetic - but at the end of the day you need a court order for the least amount of money in the least amount of time.
I am sure there are some good McKenzie friends but it's a minefield.
Concerned Dad. Your example shows that a "McKenzie friend" needs to be someone
a) You can trust
b) Free
c) Someone who can do shorthand!
d) Who is a support basically
Not an unqualified legal person giving you advice that may be wrong.
I am sure it is helpful to have someone with you who can take notes and their presence is a support. But ultimately you're still doing it yourself - with or without a McKenzie friend. It's a situation ripe for abuse, sadly as I am sure there are some committed ones. The fact they charge is my concern. The same goes with counsellors. Many are not particularly qualified or regulated - go via a referral.
As ever - buyer beware.
It's why support groups are needed (and this is not profit making)
You're right, we are in a vulnerable situation, desperate even, and need help. The legal profession are logical and doing a job in a fairly rubbish system with a bias and the bias is still - Mum's have residency of kids - you're a secondary parent - the attitude is awful.
I did read some very good advice somewhere to not fall into the trap of using a solicitor as a counsellor as you'll just run up bills. Get a counsellor for support through it (and this can be free with a GP referral - there's a waiting list but if you say you're willing to accept a cancellation and short notice appointment it can be quite quick). So a sympathetic solicitor might be - well, sympathetic - but at the end of the day you need a court order for the least amount of money in the least amount of time.
I am sure there are some good McKenzie friends but it's a minefield.
Concerned Dad. Your example shows that a "McKenzie friend" needs to be someone
a) You can trust
b) Free
c) Someone who can do shorthand!
d) Who is a support basically
Not an unqualified legal person giving you advice that may be wrong.
I am sure it is helpful to have someone with you who can take notes and their presence is a support. But ultimately you're still doing it yourself - with or without a McKenzie friend. It's a situation ripe for abuse, sadly as I am sure there are some committed ones. The fact they charge is my concern. The same goes with counsellors. Many are not particularly qualified or regulated - go via a referral.
The answer to the question posed in the BBC’s podcast, can anyone call themselves a counsellor or psychotherapist, is yes.
Why aren’t more professions regulated? |
www.hcpc-uk.org
As ever - buyer beware.
It's why support groups are needed (and this is not profit making)
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