Evening,
I split up with ex around 10 years ago. we dont speak but I thought we were pretty neutral, Daughter (14) was old enough to arrange weekly visits herself.
My daughter has always/ or was a complete daddies girl. I never sensed this coming in 1000 years.
Early May i had to fairly & constructively criticise her over something, I then received a huge ranting message off her mom saying i am "unreasonable & Anxiety inducing" then telling me to stop contacting our daughter.
Apparently Her mom booked her into the doctors and got her diagnosed with Tics & Eating disorder In January yet totally withheld this info from me till her rant in May, she then went on to say Im the cause of it. This totally blew my mind because my daughter and I always have fun, and I dont remember ever raising my voice, plus there was never any signs of tics or eating issues, when with me.
I was basically ghosted then till July when my daughter replied to a message saying it would be nice to see me, "she will ask her mom."...POOOF she ghosted me again.
After trying to call & text at fair intervals, she then messaged me again in August claiming i'm not interested in her and we don't have much to look forward to anyway. we also dont go for "nice restaurants & clothes shopping" like other parents do & it hurt her when I told her about all the women I took for meals!!!! This blew my mind because the whole thing was one big lie and gaslighting, Ive then been re-ghosted and its Now October.
She has also cut my parents off completely and ghosted them, as two pensioners they have never experienced this and its destroyed my mom, let alone me.
Her mom replied to one message "daughter has come to this conclusion all by herself and her(moms) conscience is clear. take care"
A friend checked there socials for me, and the amount of obscene gifts she is purchased after cutting me off, are out of this world, puppy, new phone, lip pierced etc etc
So I find myself here, my daughter who I love so much has gone like the member of a cult, I didnt think she would do this at 14 its blew my mind and left me full of feeling betrayed & anger etc
Ive had a meeting with the headteacher and solicitor, I literally tick 15 of the 17 alienating check lists, and they just all looked at me like they dont even believe its a thing.
I was trying to point out to the teacher this isnt "low interest" this is "cut off" I told her even abused kids dont cut there parent off. she replied "sounds like a family dispute" they all also said at 14-15 they will trust the childs decision......what craziness
sorry for the rant , but can anyone suggest what to do, part of me doesnt like her for whats she done at 14, after Ive never failed to turn up weekly, but part of me wants to sympathise and accept shes been brainwashed
Cheers
I split up with ex around 10 years ago. we dont speak but I thought we were pretty neutral, Daughter (14) was old enough to arrange weekly visits herself.
My daughter has always/ or was a complete daddies girl. I never sensed this coming in 1000 years.
Early May i had to fairly & constructively criticise her over something, I then received a huge ranting message off her mom saying i am "unreasonable & Anxiety inducing" then telling me to stop contacting our daughter.
Apparently Her mom booked her into the doctors and got her diagnosed with Tics & Eating disorder In January yet totally withheld this info from me till her rant in May, she then went on to say Im the cause of it. This totally blew my mind because my daughter and I always have fun, and I dont remember ever raising my voice, plus there was never any signs of tics or eating issues, when with me.
I was basically ghosted then till July when my daughter replied to a message saying it would be nice to see me, "she will ask her mom."...POOOF she ghosted me again.
After trying to call & text at fair intervals, she then messaged me again in August claiming i'm not interested in her and we don't have much to look forward to anyway. we also dont go for "nice restaurants & clothes shopping" like other parents do & it hurt her when I told her about all the women I took for meals!!!! This blew my mind because the whole thing was one big lie and gaslighting, Ive then been re-ghosted and its Now October.
She has also cut my parents off completely and ghosted them, as two pensioners they have never experienced this and its destroyed my mom, let alone me.
Her mom replied to one message "daughter has come to this conclusion all by herself and her(moms) conscience is clear. take care"
A friend checked there socials for me, and the amount of obscene gifts she is purchased after cutting me off, are out of this world, puppy, new phone, lip pierced etc etc
So I find myself here, my daughter who I love so much has gone like the member of a cult, I didnt think she would do this at 14 its blew my mind and left me full of feeling betrayed & anger etc
Ive had a meeting with the headteacher and solicitor, I literally tick 15 of the 17 alienating check lists, and they just all looked at me like they dont even believe its a thing.
I was trying to point out to the teacher this isnt "low interest" this is "cut off" I told her even abused kids dont cut there parent off. she replied "sounds like a family dispute" they all also said at 14-15 they will trust the childs decision......what craziness
sorry for the rant , but can anyone suggest what to do, part of me doesnt like her for whats she done at 14, after Ive never failed to turn up weekly, but part of me wants to sympathise and accept shes been brainwashed
Cheers