As some of you are aware I recently had a favourable outcome in court where the judge ordered that there is no bar to contact.
Cafcass made the recommendation for the ICFA program which at first I didn't agree on. I explained that there has already been a massive delay, and the ICFA has a 3 months waiting time. I explained that I could get a contact centre setup within a week. The CFA explained to me that as I have not seen our child for such a long time this could have an irreversible and damaging impact on our child.
Even though the extra wait would be agonising, I agreed that the reintroduction work would be beneficial for our child. The CFA explained that a storyboard would be made and there would be weeks of development work before contact begins.
Both parents have had 1 video call, and our child will have 1 visit from ICFA then our child will be left with me for 2 sessions. Then it's in the mother's hands to agree to contact to continue until a final order is made.
This to me sounds like a setup and this could cause massive distress for our child. Knowing how malicious the ex is she will not agree to contact after those 2 ICFA sessions.
Imagine that from a child's perspective and the emotional damage it could cause our child. Seeing me twice, then possibly not for 3/4 months until a final order is made then all this so called "reintroduction" work has been for nothing.
My main concern is that the possible distress from the shoddy ICFA work will be manipulated and used as leverage for the final order.
Cafcass made the recommendation for the ICFA program which at first I didn't agree on. I explained that there has already been a massive delay, and the ICFA has a 3 months waiting time. I explained that I could get a contact centre setup within a week. The CFA explained to me that as I have not seen our child for such a long time this could have an irreversible and damaging impact on our child.
Even though the extra wait would be agonising, I agreed that the reintroduction work would be beneficial for our child. The CFA explained that a storyboard would be made and there would be weeks of development work before contact begins.
Both parents have had 1 video call, and our child will have 1 visit from ICFA then our child will be left with me for 2 sessions. Then it's in the mother's hands to agree to contact to continue until a final order is made.
This to me sounds like a setup and this could cause massive distress for our child. Knowing how malicious the ex is she will not agree to contact after those 2 ICFA sessions.
Imagine that from a child's perspective and the emotional damage it could cause our child. Seeing me twice, then possibly not for 3/4 months until a final order is made then all this so called "reintroduction" work has been for nothing.
My main concern is that the possible distress from the shoddy ICFA work will be manipulated and used as leverage for the final order.