Hi All,
Over the last 3+ years there have been lots of times when my ex has encouraged our child to be scared of being with me. More recently, this has switched into making the child feel guilty for being away from my ex.
My initial responses to this stuff did not help the situation. I was too full of feelings and adult logic. I Consistently found that solutions were counter to my reflex responses. Today I found the above video. It puts a structure around some of the things I stumbled upon by trial and error.
In a way this reminds me of dealing with Cafcass and the court. Children are not swayed by a counter-attack either.