Hi Everyone,
Quick background to give the result some context.
I have 2 girls aged (now) 6 and nearly 3. I separated 2 years ago after my ex asulted me. In October 2020 she filed to court to relocate to the West Midlands from Greater Manchester and made assurances that she would not relocate without my or the court's consent. In Jan 2021 she upped and left without that hearing or consent. I filed an emergency application and stated on it around the assault and child abducation. After I filed that she started playing silly buggers and i didn't see my kids for 13 weeks. When eventually we went to court for my emergency application she started accusing me of abuse (which wasn't the case) and forced the courts into making me use a contact center even though it was her who was abusive. The courts never heard properly my emergency application and just rolled it into the main case. Leaving my ex to just change schools of my eldest and enroll my youngest into a nursery without my knowledge or consent.
Fast forward to the hearing on Friday.
She asked for courts for:
A live with order.
My to-do ALL the collection and drop off (a round trip for me of over 200 miles) except for 6 times which she would do.
I could have them every other weekend collect Saturday and return Sunday
3 weeks of ALL the school holidays which i had to "request" from mum
She wanted EVERY Christmas day with them and i could have them every boxing day
A weekly call on a Wednesday in addition to contact.
some ancillary things
I asked for:
A shared care order with the children still schooling in Birmingham
I collect kids from mum, and mum collects kids from me (basically 50/50 in traveling)
I have them every other weekend collect from school on a Friday until Sunday 5pm
1/2 term is done on a one on one off basis
easter i have the 1st week, she has the 2nd week
Summer holidays, mum as 1st week, i have week 2 and 3, mum has week 4 and 5 and i have week 6 until they return to school
Christmas, even year i have 20th - 27th mum has from brake up of school until 20th and from 27th until kids return to school. odd years it's the reverse of this
A call every Wednesday and friday
As the children are already off school now, as a one-off this year i get most of the remaining summer holidays
some other ancillary things.
What the result was
a LIVE with order for the mum :-(
I collect kids from mum, and mum collects kids from me (basically 50/50 in traveling)
I have them every other weekend collect from school on a Friday until Sunday 5pm
1/2 term is done on a one on one off rolling basis
easter i have the 1st week, she has the 2nd week
Summer holidays, mum as 1st week, i have week 2 and 3, mum has week 4 and 5 and i have week 6 until they return to school
Christmas, even year i have 20th - 27th mum has from brake up of school until 20th and from 27th until kids return to school. odd years it's the reverse of this
A call every Wednesday and friday
CAFCASS wasn't happy about this summer and said that the kids needed to ramp up their contact so have an overnight stay this Saturday to Sunday, and next Saturday to Sunday.. then mum is conveniently away for a week. Then i have them 2 nights the weekend after that and the weekend after that. Then into the agreement.
Overall I've probably got about 90 - 95% of what i asked for. CAFCASS other than the ramp up rubbish were great and THEY said that both parents should deal with travel equally and they said about Christmas and having an equal split of holidays.
Its shit that the system failed my girls at the start so i couldn't bring them home permanently but from having come to terms with them not coming home i got pretty much everything i asked for. I came out of court with a smile on my face whereas mum was in a meeting room balling her eyes out.
I would of posted early but had to collect my kids yesterday at 10 am and they were collected at 3pm today so been having some much-missed quality time with my children.
Quick background to give the result some context.
I have 2 girls aged (now) 6 and nearly 3. I separated 2 years ago after my ex asulted me. In October 2020 she filed to court to relocate to the West Midlands from Greater Manchester and made assurances that she would not relocate without my or the court's consent. In Jan 2021 she upped and left without that hearing or consent. I filed an emergency application and stated on it around the assault and child abducation. After I filed that she started playing silly buggers and i didn't see my kids for 13 weeks. When eventually we went to court for my emergency application she started accusing me of abuse (which wasn't the case) and forced the courts into making me use a contact center even though it was her who was abusive. The courts never heard properly my emergency application and just rolled it into the main case. Leaving my ex to just change schools of my eldest and enroll my youngest into a nursery without my knowledge or consent.
Fast forward to the hearing on Friday.
She asked for courts for:
A live with order.
My to-do ALL the collection and drop off (a round trip for me of over 200 miles) except for 6 times which she would do.
I could have them every other weekend collect Saturday and return Sunday
3 weeks of ALL the school holidays which i had to "request" from mum
She wanted EVERY Christmas day with them and i could have them every boxing day
A weekly call on a Wednesday in addition to contact.
some ancillary things
I asked for:
A shared care order with the children still schooling in Birmingham
I collect kids from mum, and mum collects kids from me (basically 50/50 in traveling)
I have them every other weekend collect from school on a Friday until Sunday 5pm
1/2 term is done on a one on one off basis
easter i have the 1st week, she has the 2nd week
Summer holidays, mum as 1st week, i have week 2 and 3, mum has week 4 and 5 and i have week 6 until they return to school
Christmas, even year i have 20th - 27th mum has from brake up of school until 20th and from 27th until kids return to school. odd years it's the reverse of this
A call every Wednesday and friday
As the children are already off school now, as a one-off this year i get most of the remaining summer holidays
some other ancillary things.
What the result was
a LIVE with order for the mum :-(
I collect kids from mum, and mum collects kids from me (basically 50/50 in traveling)
I have them every other weekend collect from school on a Friday until Sunday 5pm
1/2 term is done on a one on one off rolling basis
easter i have the 1st week, she has the 2nd week
Summer holidays, mum as 1st week, i have week 2 and 3, mum has week 4 and 5 and i have week 6 until they return to school
Christmas, even year i have 20th - 27th mum has from brake up of school until 20th and from 27th until kids return to school. odd years it's the reverse of this
A call every Wednesday and friday
CAFCASS wasn't happy about this summer and said that the kids needed to ramp up their contact so have an overnight stay this Saturday to Sunday, and next Saturday to Sunday.. then mum is conveniently away for a week. Then i have them 2 nights the weekend after that and the weekend after that. Then into the agreement.
Overall I've probably got about 90 - 95% of what i asked for. CAFCASS other than the ramp up rubbish were great and THEY said that both parents should deal with travel equally and they said about Christmas and having an equal split of holidays.
Its shit that the system failed my girls at the start so i couldn't bring them home permanently but from having come to terms with them not coming home i got pretty much everything i asked for. I came out of court with a smile on my face whereas mum was in a meeting room balling her eyes out.
I would of posted early but had to collect my kids yesterday at 10 am and they were collected at 3pm today so been having some much-missed quality time with my children.
