CAO in place for my daughter (14). Alternate weekends, midweek overnight, half holidays.
For the last few years mother has been disrupting. Making other arrangements across weekends, rewarding child when she doesn't come over, phoning child while she's with me to wind her up, offering to pick her up early. All textbook coercive control. Constantly escalating.
Child has now started saying she doesn't want to see me but can give no real reason for that. We always had a good relationship, weathered previous attempts by mother to alienate including proceedings where she tried to claim contact should be supervised because I get depression. I do, but am careful for it not to impact on my daughter.
Mother has personal friends who are social workers, Cafcass and local authority. Has previously used them to harass me and prop up her previous proceedings.
As such, am reluctant to try to enforce the CAO. I can't afford a solicitor. I also know courts and cafcass are really anti-father even when non-corrupt social workers report.
However, as such, am concerned for my kid. I don't know how far mother's coercive control goes. Daughter has told me they've come to blows before, and mother was physically and emotionally abusive when we were together.
If I walk away that may appease mother, but ultimately she will abuse our daughter, its her nature.
I'd be grateful for any advice.
For the last few years mother has been disrupting. Making other arrangements across weekends, rewarding child when she doesn't come over, phoning child while she's with me to wind her up, offering to pick her up early. All textbook coercive control. Constantly escalating.
Child has now started saying she doesn't want to see me but can give no real reason for that. We always had a good relationship, weathered previous attempts by mother to alienate including proceedings where she tried to claim contact should be supervised because I get depression. I do, but am careful for it not to impact on my daughter.
Mother has personal friends who are social workers, Cafcass and local authority. Has previously used them to harass me and prop up her previous proceedings.
As such, am reluctant to try to enforce the CAO. I can't afford a solicitor. I also know courts and cafcass are really anti-father even when non-corrupt social workers report.
However, as such, am concerned for my kid. I don't know how far mother's coercive control goes. Daughter has told me they've come to blows before, and mother was physically and emotionally abusive when we were together.
If I walk away that may appease mother, but ultimately she will abuse our daughter, its her nature.
I'd be grateful for any advice.