Hi Ash. Yes, my ex emailed me saying my son refused to go to school for 4 days. She asked me to help. She then emailed saying she drops him off to school and next thing he is messaging her saying he would jump off a bridge if he has to go to school. My son was not in my care on that week. Now in her position statement she says my son only runs from school when he knows it is my contact day. She stated he only says he will threaten to commit suicide if he knows he has to go to me. I have so much evidence to back up everything I say. Just seems no one is interested in the truth. My ex has just got a new partner so it seems she wants to play happy families and wants me out the way. I am seriously considering walking away. Sick of the lies.
Do you have legal representation? You have to double down with your lawyers - before the next hearing - on the concept of your son's welfare having been directly harmed by this alienation. The evidence is clear. The next steps should really include applying for a full psychological evaluation of your boy. The judge made a knee-jerk reaction, but this idea that because he's mentioned suicide in relation to visiting you, therefore no contact with you should occur. That is absurd.
Also, if he is threatening suicide it is no longer just an issue for CAFCASS/Family Court, etc. It's a medical issue which requires the proper intervention. It really does sound like your poor son has been put under so much pressure - probably for years - by his mother, that it has deeply impacted him emotionally. That's why it's called emotional abuse.
I know it sounds drastic but the next time you hear or know of him threatening to commit suicide I'd call 999. If it were me, I would do the same. Get that process kicked off of having medical notes taken.
I'm so sorry for what you're both going through. Please don't walk away, there are cases where fathers have fought tooth and nail in situations like this, even if you can never get exactly what you want, you will be a protective factor for him as long as you're fighting for him. The fight might have to change though, because this is not just a standard Family Law issue; your ex's abuse has severely damaged your son. If the court you are in is not recognising that, get a different court, appeal, get different lawyers, do what you have to.