Do courts support 50:50 shared care these days?

[KG70]

Did you get 50/50 in the end? Would like to know as I am going through a similar issue?

I am still waiting for S7 report and then DRA. It is a long and painful journey. Will update when it is all sorted.

 

[anon1234]

Good luck Flozinho.

If you have had your child for 5 nights out of 14 for a few years now and now you want to go for 7 out of 14 which is just 1 extra nights per week. What are the chances?

I have reasons for going for this as his mum has both mental and physical illnesses that my son is noticing and I want to protect him whilst he starts his secondary years, whilst at the same time helping her by taking some of the burden away from her.

So therefore what are the likely chances of shared custody 50/50?

No welfare issues and my son loves being in my company.

Also live very close to his mum

 

[KG70]

Good luck Flozinho.

If you have had your child for 5 nights out of 14 for a few years now and now you want to go for 7 out of 14 which is just 1 extra nights per week. What are the chances?

I have reasons for going for this as his mum has both mental and physical illnesses that my son is noticing and I want to protect him whilst he starts his secondary years, whilst at the same time helping her by taking some of the burden away from her.

So therefore what are the likely chances of shared custody 50/50?

No welfare issues and my son loves being in my company.

Also live very close to his mum

I wish I knew what the chances are. I am waiting on the S7 report. Will let you know when I get to the next stage. Best of luck to you.

 

[bujanin]

I am still waiting for S7 report and then DRA. It is a long and painful journey. Will update when it is all sorted.

How have things unfolded for you over the past four months?

 

[Conan]

And that’s why it’s good to try and get Cafcass inside and don’t criticise the ex - focus on winning over Cafcass as to what a good child focused Dad you are. Let the ex dig her own hole.

Once again Ash, thank you for your insights as II am heading towards final hearing in January. Following last week where everything kicked off between Mum's solicitors, threats to take Cafacss court for a variation of the order regarding seeing the children for their ascertainable wishes etc etc - they wanted to block the ISW from doing this following 7 positive reports of my interaction with the children.

Things have calmed down a bit and have communicated with the ISW to get contact up and running again. Mum is blocking the sessions and making life real hard. The last Cafcass report highlighted a timeline over 3 months leading to enabling the children to spend more time with me and to return to overnights but all is being blocked by Mum. No reasons just blockages and unreasonable behaviour.

Whether I can get back some overnights before final hearing is going to be difficult. Before all this went to court I had the the children 4/14 but then Mum wanted to cut this down further which led to court action. I won't raise a C2 with this Judge with the hearing so close now as it won't work until ISW and Cafcass have done their reports. The ISW needs to summarise how well contact has taken place and I hope evidence the difficulties to try and get progressive contact back due to unreasonable behaviour of Mum. I am also thinking Cafcass will just say not to disrupt the children and leave things as they are, this will devastate me. I won't know what to do if that happens.

any advice on preparing my position statement for the final hearing based on positive contact reports only - my aim was always to get to 50:50 but I am concerned, having been given hardly any times since June 2023, no real holiday time since for 3 years (a few days here and there). I feel desperate. I will need to settle the bill for direct access barrister come December for the 2 day hearing. Any ideas, thoughts on approach to the position statement but I think I know will be predicated on the Cafcass s7 report addendum to her original report and ISW report.

I feel frustrated and let down by the system and the agony just continues.

 

[Lester]

I have no advice unfortunately. But surely judges, magistrates etc can see through these women in that they want as many overnights as possible, because then they are entitled to more csa payments???