How old will your daughter be by October?
Hi Ash, She's 13, will be 14 in January.
My other son is 16 now. Sent him the happy birthday wishes back in August via his big brother, which is 19 now and still lives with me. He thanked us with a vocal message via his brother's Insta acc, but after, Ive been told that he kinda regreting responding to us as I might use that in Court that could put him in trouble.
Also, I noticed my daughter checked my and my mum's(grandmother) TicTock accounts with a different username and after I replied with a like, she started been text abusive towards me and blocked the access. She called me a stalker, abusive father, alcoholic I felt lots of anger from her. I posted some videos of us with her step little sister as I know she was missing her from her last year messages, but now, she accused me of spoilling her and accused me of ruining her childhood and hopes my little daughter will realise what a horible father I've been to her and her familly. Soon after that I've deleted all my videos and did not post anymore.
There should be a way to intervene to avoid the children growing up with these misleading reality.
I'm intrigued by the fact that I've been kept away for more than 3 years from seen and speaking to my children and these liars and cheaters have managed to corrupt the system, using the all kind of allegations and wording to transform themselves into victims from the actual facts.
I feel like I'm grieving for my lost children and wish I could sue the Institutions for ignoring to follow the facts and investigate all the claims and persecute the liars. How a proven cheater that did not look after the children as a commited mother and wife, can now become the best person to guide them in life convincing them that they should not comunicate with 90% of their relatives and old friends. How these institutions were so convinced that all the words of a 10 year old and a 13 year old at the time were so at ease to speak for themselves deciding for their whole future, but allow to a 17 year old and a 3 year old continue living with me.
I'm not perfect myself, I learned and grown up along with the children as well, adapted to new changes in life, I've reflected about my actions at the difficult times. Looking at the general picture, I love my children with al my heart and all the decisions I've made were never intended with any harm but if you read the Mother's statements/allegations and the children's Guardian reports, I wish I can lock myself away too. Looks like only God is keeping me to believe in myself and gives me hopes that the good hearted people will win at the end.
The restriction of applying to the court for 2 years is coming to an end this month. I have no confidence that i'ts going to be different as I lost trust in organisations having a common sense as already proven. Maybe in other cases, but on mine it's been done more damage than protecting the children.
I might have better chances accusing the mother of false allegations having an impact over my relantionship with the children.
I'm advised by close and caring family/friends that the truth will come out one day when they will be able to understand more and think for themselves. Will it not be too late? I already feel that they're in doubt for trusting her mother knowing some of the reality already and will be hard for them to accept my unconditional love for them over the years. Why should they grow up with the fear that I'm looking to attract them and blackmail them into contacting me, into spend time with me or even that I want to hurt their mother or even them? That's not normal.
"Spread Love, not Hate" . Hope I can pass my motto to my children.
Looking for a good barrister, any recomandations are welcomed.
I will not giving up on my children.
There should be a proper court action where a qualified psihologist to be appointed to follow the track of events and the false statements/accusations and then the proven ones to be punished accordantely for misleading the courts and the Institutions. Any advise on that will be appreciated as well.
Sorry for my long writting. I'm trying to find ways into reconecting with my children in the most peacefully ways.