That is a point. And also sometimes why Cafcass back the Mother and don't want to change things. Situations vary - in my case, my ex doesn't actually need the CM. Her H is earning a lot more than me! And she has a full time job. She still takes it though and wouldn't give it up.
I have an informal arrangement over that. We had an agreed amount for years when my son was young. She made a big thing about wanting more - so I had a formal assessment to show her she would get a lot less if she went via the CMS! And the amount was left the same as an informal agreement.
So do you think she would agree to more time if you agreed not to reduce CM? If that is affordable. Even if it was 50/50. Or just reduce it slightly if it was 50/50. Obviously depends on your financial circumstances and how much you usually pay.
Or just ignore all that and go for it. It also depends on what you've applied for as to what you are likely to get. If you applied for 50/50 you won't get more than that. If you applied for more time with you than with her, you're more likely to get 50/50.
I would have thought one week on one week off and half the holidays would be a good schedule. Or 2-2-5-5. That works well for most people as the kids are never away for longer than 5 days in term time and you get a good long week-end rolling into the midweek schedule.
That would be say Wed and Thurs night with you each week plus every other week-end from Friday through to Monday am school drop off (3 nights).
So one week it would be: Mon Tues nights with ex, Wed Thurs nights with you. Then the week-end with ex from Friday through to Wednesday.
The following week it would be Wed after school through to Monday am. and then repeat.
So every week kids have the same two consecutive midweek overnights with both of you and every other week-end with both of you (the week-end tagged onto the midweek overnights).
You didn't actually say what you've applied for. The problem with applying for "a change of residency" is they don't like doing that unless there are serious welfare issues. But you should be able to have increased time, I agree.
You didn't actually say what you'd applied for.
Well, part of the problem is that the CM is based on taxable earnings. I have my own company. Due to illness/chemo etc I've had a fair amount of time out of work over the last few years. Yet I still have to live, keep a roof over the children's head and feed them etc. So, I still have to draw money out of the company, and that's taxable. So she gets paid CM not according to what I'm actually making, but what I have to draw. Company funds are getting lower and lower, and she's getting a new loft conversion and renovating the whole house. My earnings will get less as the illness draws in.
The children don't want a week on week off, because, and this is what they say "mum tells us she'll miss us too much when we're away from her".
In the past, I applied for 2-2-3. I know this sounds like a lot of moving about, but the two houses are 5 minutes apart. There are clothes, toys, everything they need in both houses. Handovers would be straight from school so don't interrupt their evenings. However, this time I simply asked the court to consider asking the children their views. I really don't have a preference personally. I think a week about would be better for them, but they don't seem to want that.
There isn't any "ideal" way of splitting 7 days and nights. But the simple fact is that they don't like the current arrangement at all.
In terms of contact, the children have said their preference is to have equal time. After that (and surprisingly to me) they said they'd actually prefer to flip the current arrangement. And last of all, they'd want it to stay as it is.
So for court, I actually think asking to flip the current arrangement is a good idea. And if they say no, then the 50/50 should be the next option.