We have a very similar situation as well and have our cafcass section 7 coming up. The court has instructed cafcass to assess for alienation but we have also been advised to provoke the social worker’s curiosity…not tell them it’s going on. Show them our evidence and make them ask the questions which will lead to the right answers. Exactly what NewcastleBrownAle is saying.
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Alienation and next steps
- Thread starter Tobebestdadpossible
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Sadly I am still in the court system and I don’t have much access to my middle child. I am supposed to get two video calls a week which never happens. My daughter on the odd occasion will decide that she wants to spend time with me which I suppose is positive so for example last month she wanted to spend the whole day with me. It is not easy for me to say but I have accepted that she has left my life for a while. I have increased my contact with my other two daughters but the courts are not keen on separating the children so this has been my stumbling block.
The thing that completely changed my case was involving a child psychologist. Without out doubt this person did more than any other person in the court system. If you have the money I would highly recommend getting this person involved. They looked at my relationship with my children and why things have gone a certain way. With her recommendations it was a turning point for me and I started to get more access.
The child psychologist made an important statement to me and said “while you might not be in the their life make sure that you stay relevant”. It is so true. I go to my middle daughters parents evening, send her birthday cards and I write her emails into an account that I will give her when she is older. In years to come she will know I never stopped thinking about her.
It also important that you stay strong for your son. I am currently doing a course called Loving, Lost, Living. Be the best person so when your son does want to come back into your life he can see for himself that the stories said about you were just lies.
Let me know if you have any other questions.
The thing that completely changed my case was involving a child psychologist. Without out doubt this person did more than any other person in the court system. If you have the money I would highly recommend getting this person involved. They looked at my relationship with my children and why things have gone a certain way. With her recommendations it was a turning point for me and I started to get more access.
The child psychologist made an important statement to me and said “while you might not be in the their life make sure that you stay relevant”. It is so true. I go to my middle daughters parents evening, send her birthday cards and I write her emails into an account that I will give her when she is older. In years to come she will know I never stopped thinking about her.
It also important that you stay strong for your son. I am currently doing a course called Loving, Lost, Living. Be the best person so when your son does want to come back into your life he can see for himself that the stories said about you were just lies.
Let me know if you have any other questions.
Absolutely @Tobebestdadpossible
It's very sad not being able to 'rescue' you child(ren) and tell them the truth. But you need to lay a solid foundation for the day they hopefully see the truth and come back to you.
Just a funny message or video sent now and again shows you're thinking of them.
It's difficult when you can't get hold of them or they ignore you.
I liken it to a cult. The person is unreachable until the penny drops in their own mind.
I think finding acceptance is a big thing too. Accepting what has been done to you and the children. It's not giving up but it's seeing with clarity what you're facing.
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She can't change resembling her dad though. Spitting image.BBC News - Jolie and Pitt's daughter Shiloh seeks name change
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