Hi All,
I recently sent a message to my ex appealing to her "better nature." It was simple stuff about being more flexible around minor alterations to arrangements in service of child's best interests. Along with this I proposed building a positive co-parenting relationship to progress arrangements in line with shared understanding of wishes and feelings. I was advised that arrangements are "not about" the child and reminded that flexibility will be zero.
Following that I received a letter from solicitor. It starts with allegations which I can disprove and don't amount to a great deal. Moves on to misrepresenting our current order, social services take on our case, undertakings, previous proceedings... It concludes by asking me for undertakings and threatening court action if they are not made within a timeframe. Undertakings they request appear petty, e.g. not to ask for more time for me, never to mention proceedings to child, not to interfere with bedtime routine... But I would be giving her the rope to hang me with if I made them.
When they tried this stuff previously, I told them I was not minded to agree but that I would review formal drafts if produced all the same. Drafts have never materialised.
I could tear all of this apart, but it has never been of much use when I have previously. If I ask them to clarify and tidy up errors/sloppiness, they just act as though I am argumentative and unreasonable.
Is there any reason to do more than something like:
Dear XXX
Thanks for correspondence of xx/xx/xx.
Accounts presented on behalf of your client, and by you directly, are denied.
Yours sincerely...
Lots of the time I am indulgent and take a reassuring tone with my ex, but this does not seem worth my attention and effort.
I'd love to hear any experiences people have had of simple denial on stuff like this.
Thanks.
I recently sent a message to my ex appealing to her "better nature." It was simple stuff about being more flexible around minor alterations to arrangements in service of child's best interests. Along with this I proposed building a positive co-parenting relationship to progress arrangements in line with shared understanding of wishes and feelings. I was advised that arrangements are "not about" the child and reminded that flexibility will be zero.
Following that I received a letter from solicitor. It starts with allegations which I can disprove and don't amount to a great deal. Moves on to misrepresenting our current order, social services take on our case, undertakings, previous proceedings... It concludes by asking me for undertakings and threatening court action if they are not made within a timeframe. Undertakings they request appear petty, e.g. not to ask for more time for me, never to mention proceedings to child, not to interfere with bedtime routine... But I would be giving her the rope to hang me with if I made them.
When they tried this stuff previously, I told them I was not minded to agree but that I would review formal drafts if produced all the same. Drafts have never materialised.
I could tear all of this apart, but it has never been of much use when I have previously. If I ask them to clarify and tidy up errors/sloppiness, they just act as though I am argumentative and unreasonable.
Is there any reason to do more than something like:
Dear XXX
Thanks for correspondence of xx/xx/xx.
Accounts presented on behalf of your client, and by you directly, are denied.
Yours sincerely...
Lots of the time I am indulgent and take a reassuring tone with my ex, but this does not seem worth my attention and effort.
I'd love to hear any experiences people have had of simple denial on stuff like this.
Thanks.