FHDRA - So complex I don't know where to begin

[TheBigRedDog]

What has your ex been charged with? This could turn the tide of your entire ordeal in your favour.

I'm not keen sharing too much in case she somehow finds her was here and connects the dots.
But the charge is connected to Harrassment, it's not against me but another of my child's relatives on the paternal side and it is connected to her behaviour in how she's been trying to control access to my child. She was interviewed for similar behaviour to me but as it was a first offense she was given a warning and told to stop. The current case has been ongoing for several months, the methods have changed but my ex will not accept responsibility and even though she's now been charged, she's still denying it and trying to turn it round to her being the victim. Hence why remand may be likely cos the behviour hasn't really stopped either.

 

[Thewallguy]

I'm not keen sharing too much in case she somehow finds her was here and connects the dots.
But the charge is connected to Harrassment, it's not against me but another of my child's relatives on the paternal side and it is connected to her behaviour in how she's been trying to control access to my child. She was interviewed for similar behaviour to me but as it was a first offense she was given a warning and told to stop. The current case has been ongoing for several months, the methods have changed but my ex will not accept responsibility and even though she's now been charged, she's still denying it and trying to turn it round to her being the victim. Hence why remand may be likely cos the behviour hasn't really stopped either.

This is still very concerning behaviour from the child’s mum. The fact she’s been charged means the CPS believes there is a very strong prospect of a successful prosecution. And given she has displayed this behaviour towards yourself you should push for the court recognise this.

We all know if this was you harassing mum, the court would not let you get away with it.

 

[TheBigRedDog]

This is still very concerning behaviour from the child’s mum. The fact she’s been charged means the CPS believes there is a very strong prospect of a successful prosecution. And given she has displayed this behaviour towards yourself you should push for the court recognise this.

We all know if this was you harassing mum, the court would not let you get away with it.

Exactly, she has told so many lies and manipulated situations, the paternal family have been made out to be monsters, despite no evidence she seems to have everyone and every organisation wrapped around her little finger. To hear the CPS was charging was music to our ears and they have a lot of evidence and a relief that she doesn't seem to have everyone fooled
I'm just worry as Caffcas leaned more to her version and recommended no contact until investigated despite not a shred of evidence. If I go in saying this is happening it looks like I am trying to make her look bad, especially if she starts playing the victim in this scenario.
I was just thinking I could put it in my PS statement factually and highlight if she were to go to prison my child would need me. I'm guessing the courts wouldn't know this unless either of us notified them and she won't!

 

[Jayy_]

Exactly, she has told so many lies and manipulated situations, the paternal family have been made out to be monsters, despite no evidence she seems to have everyone and every organisation wrapped around her little finger. To hear the CPS was charging was music to our ears and they have a lot of evidence and a relief that she doesn't seem to have everyone fooled
I'm just worry as Caffcas leaned more to her version and recommended no contact until investigated despite not a shred of evidence. If I go in saying this is happening it looks like I am trying to make her look bad, especially if she starts playing the victim in this scenario.
I was just thinking I could put it in my PS statement factually and highlight if she were to go to prison my child would need me. I'm guessing the courts wouldn't know this unless either of us notified them and she won't!

I’d put it as something like you have since found out that mother is facing charges with CPS. Given the nature of the charges, you are worried about how this would affect child’s environment and emotional well being. Given this new development, you ask that the court assesses the implication of this and consider best interest for child. Perhaps even propose alternative arrangements. Think that will help keep it child focused rather than implying she’s a bad person etc.

 

[Thewallguy]

Exactly, she has told so many lies and manipulated situations, the paternal family have been made out to be monsters, despite no evidence she seems to have everyone and every organisation wrapped around her little finger. To hear the CPS was charging was music to our ears and they have a lot of evidence and a relief that she doesn't seem to have everyone fooled
I'm just worry as Caffcas leaned more to her version and recommended no contact until investigated despite not a shred of evidence. If I go in saying this is happening it looks like I am trying to make her look bad, especially if she starts playing the victim in this scenario.
I was just thinking I could put it in my PS statement factually and highlight if she were to go to prison my child would need me. I'm guessing the courts wouldn't know this unless either of us notified them and she won't!

Don’t go into it shit slinging against her, you are the child’s father and you need to angle it to be solely about the child.

Unfortunately it’s very unlikely mum will go to prison because of the child.

Don’t be afraid to push this, you are a parent after all and if you believe mums actions and consequent prosecution will have an adverse effect on the child’s emotional wellbeing, you owe it to your child to push this in court for alternate arrangements.