Child arrangements and CPS

[PowerDad]

Good evening,

I'm again in court for Child arrangements order change of residence due to mother's behaviour.

We have Social services involved as well but I'm not sure if i can share with them court hearing details? I find them to be relevant.

Also can a DMV support worker can advice mother against child arrangements order and mother to refuse to disclose school and GP?

 

[Ash]

What is a DMV support worker? Is it DV? If social services are involved now, then they will be doing any section 7 that is ordered. What's happening at the moment? Do you have a hearing coming up?

 

[PowerDad]

At the moment we have Social involved, home visits, school visits . Yes we do have hearing coming up awaiting Caffcass safeguarding report. Yes DV support worker.

 

[PowerDad]

I’ve recently learned about significant distress one of the girls faced at school,( self harm) which wasn’t mentioned in the last hearing. The school did not keep me informed. The next court hearing is still far away, and I’m uncertain about my next steps, especially with a home visit from Social Services coming up. My ex claimed everything was fine with the girls, but it appears otherwise.

 

[Ash]

The school should have informed social services about this.

 

[PowerDad]

They have not; I was calling NSPCC in November last year when I became aware of some distress, and they made a referral to Social Services. The school has just documented everything since September last year. I received full notes at the beginning of January, and it is a lot. The school just apologised for not informing me earlier, but obviously impacted the last court hearing for change of residence.

 

[Peanut 21]

There does seem to be disconnect with schools and informing the parent the child/ren don't live with. There is still a belief they only need to inform mothers and not the dad, who has parental responsibility too. This is wrong.
I wouldn't suggest causing a divide between you and the school but at the same time I'd be tempted to put in a formal complaint about this information being kept from you. Specifically because it effected the hearing you had.

 

[Peanut 21]

From the educational department guidance on parental responsibility.

 

[PowerDad]

There does seem to be disconnect with schools and informing the parent the child/ren don't live with. There is still a belief they only need to inform mothers and not the dad, who has parental responsibility too. This is wrong.
I wouldn't suggest causing a divide between you and the school, but at the same time I'd be tempted to put in a formal complaint about this information being kept from you. Specifically because it effected the hearing you had.

Thanks yes I express my disappointment verbally with the headteacher, but he was hesitant, he was not aware of court proceedings and just apologised. I will do one in writing as well.

Now, i have not disclosed to children’s court proceedings and visit due from social services. Due to age 6, I am not sure if it is suitable but obviously in a child friendly atmosphere and understanding. One of them she is very distress to go back to mother.



Caffcass safeguarding interview to follow by March.

 

[PowerDad]

The solicitor advises that I file an updated C1A because of the distress the children have faced from new information and false statements and potentially misleading court. I must decide whether to file it immediately or address these serious concerns directly with Cafcass.

 

[PowerDad]

Social services plan to close the case due to no safeguarding concerns amidst parental conflict. A Cafcass interview is forthcoming, and I'm uncertain about their assessment process. However, I possess evidence showing the mother has established this pattern of behavior and then redirected blame towards me.

 

[PowerDad]

I received a very long report on the family assessment.

To summarize: she declined first visit there are no concerns regarding the care of either parent, but both parents claimed parental alienation, which was not substantiated in the assessment and kids responding well to parents.

As suspected, the school sided with the mother after my referral they made one as well. They claimed I was trying to influence court proceedings and accused me of being coercive, as well as alleging that I locked the kids in the car as mother told.
I made my referral after discovering the distress the children were experiencing, which the school had been concealing then they decided to make one as well.

One of our daughters alleged that the mother hit her . The school informed both parents, and the mother denied the allegation. I was not informed about this incident.


The school expressed concern that the children have attended four schools in one year.

Social services recommended that I carefully consider if changing the children’s residence would be beneficial. I believe it would provide them with long term stability. They will assess any emotional impact due to parental behaviour if another referral is received.

The mother has been bad-mouthing me everywhere and is taking medication for depression, attributing it to me.

Unlike the mother, I have not spoken negatively about her; I've only sought information about the kids with school. I just raised concerns with NSPCC

I have a CAFCASS interview this Thursday.

Also her statement from court is different to what she said to social services

 

[PowerDad]

Now just been served a C1a full of lies. More injuries with the children in her sole care.

I don't even understand what she means by :

Every Friday after school to Saturday evening every other weekend .

 

[Peanut 21]

Every Friday after school to Saturday evening every other weekend

Is this to be part of a schedule?
So have the kids from school Friday and drop back Saturday evening?

 

[PowerDad]

Sorry is in her proposal for contact moving forward. We are in court tomorrow.

That's because of financial gain from the house she is trying to reduce contact. And keep live with order.

Cafcass safeguarding letter indicated: no safeguarding concerns as this was done by social services recently. There is no need for a fact-finding hearing as the children had contact with no issues. Despite one of our daughter’s experience separation anxiety from father.

There is no need for supervised contact as the mother requested.

Only tracked incident is when she was arrested for Domestic violence assault.

But both we have C1a in court.

The court is to consider an alcohol test for me and further mental health assessment for Mum. I don't find it necessary as will delay things But I haven't drunk since Christmas

Parents to try and reach an agreement. If not, section 7 may be beneficial.

Cafcass is concerned that Mum moved the children around without consulting me, which affects stability.

Advice in interim contact to stay the same every weekend with father Friday to Monday school.

Mother agreed then refused the course offered by social services, but agreed again for the Cafcass online course only.

( she is planning to move back to our original country)

No more involvement for Cafcass moving forward.

Court to consider children’s best interests long term.

 

[Jayy_]

Sorry is in her proposal for contact moving forward. We are in court tomorrow.

That's because of financial gain from the house she is trying to reduce contact. And keep live with order.

Cafcass safeguarding letter indicated: no safeguarding concerns as this was done by social services recently. There is no need for a fact-finding hearing as the children had contact with no issues. Despite one of our daughter’s experience separation anxiety from father.

There is no need for supervised contact as the mother requested.

Only tracked incident is when she was arrested for Domestic violence assault.

But both we have C1a in court.

The court is to consider an alcohol test for me and further mental health assessment for Mum. I don't find it necessary as will delay things But I haven't drunk since Christmas

Parents to try and reach an agreement. If not, section 7 may be beneficial.

Cafcass is concerned that Mum moved the children around without consulting me, which affects stability.

Advice in interim contact to stay the same every weekend with father Friday to Monday school.

Mother agreed then refused the course offered by social services, but agreed again for the Cafcass online course only.

( she is planning to move back to our original country)

No more involvement for Cafcass moving forward.

Court to consider children’s best interests long term.

Don’t back down on your terms, CAFASS has already recommended the terms to stay the same for Friday - Monday school. This is generally the default too I believe. Keep child focus and reasons why the weekend schedule works and has been working.

Is mother trying to move any time soon? as you’ll also probably need to tackle that at some point

 

[PowerDad]

She is refusing to attend a course im person over the summer .

All she wants is the money and she will go.

 

[Jayy_]

She is refusing to attend a course im person over the summer .

All she wants is the money and she will go.

The court will have to deal with the course. She is showing signs of non cooperation which might work in your favour. Don’t back down on the weekend arrangement.

Do you have evidence of her saying she will be leaving the country? It may be good to bring that up as she shouldn’t be able to have child for more than 28 days in another country without your consent. I think it’s also the prohibited steps order that can prevent her from doing so if needed

 

[PowerDad]

My application is to change the residence altogether and considered by the court and Caffcass.

The only evidence is a message that he wanted to speak with me over the phone, and we did, and I didn't agree with her proposal.

There's a promise to the court not to move from the area without my permission or court leave, as Pso was not granted. She mislead the court, and I've raised that now.

 

[PowerDad]

The judge dismissed all c1a as it wasn't an issue having regular time with both parents and dismissed the mother's parental alienation allegations. Dismissed her intentions for an NMO.

I have tried to reach an agreement, but it was refused by mother; there was a bit of confusion about my application for a change of residence. No section 7 is needed. We have to put statements in for the proposal moving forward. The judge dismissed her proposal for alternate weekends due to the distance between us.

As aspected mother is keen to live for financial gain she raised that in court.

It was a very good judge and child-focused. He advised us to reach an agreement as if the court did it, we may not like it.

Can someone help me with the divorce proceedings?