Hi
I have a CAO in place which states the following:
The Applicant must make sure that the child spends time or otherwise has contact with the Respondent:
From the week commencing DATE on alternate weekends, from a Friday to a Sunday.
b. During term time collection to take place from school on a Friday. In the event that there is a change of
circumstances for example, the father is to have a change of employment or in the event of an emergency,
handover may take place at the mother’s property.
c. Outside of term time collection to take place on a Friday from mother’s home.
No phones or recording devices to be present at handover.
A full list of breaches is below:
4th May
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
Mother was not happy for Child to stay overnight then stated she was too unwell for any contact
7th June
Planned contact
N/A
Actual contact
N/A
Mother states that the CAFCASS officer NAME has informed her that I did not want children. Mother asks me if I “want this” and offers to stop CMS payments in exchange for me not having contact with Child.
9th August
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
Mother states to Father that she has advised Child that it is CAFCASS's decision that she goes with him, Child states to Father that Mum says she does not have to go and that she if she does she can make a deal about reducing contact. Child leaves me to go into her home and brings Mother out to discuss reducing contact as set out in the order.
20th September 2024
Mother provides no update for 7 hours on Childs health after offering to do so in writing, when messaged she responds, Father offers to pick Child up, Mother stops responding. Refuses to rearrange
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
22nd November 2024
Weeks in advance of Childs tonsillectomy Father requested to swap weekends, Mother refused, then after op she was too unwell according to Mother
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
29th November 2024
Child stated she was too unwell to attend contact and would not come with Father, no assistance to support contact from Mother
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
20th December 2024
Child appears hesitant and fear of Father at the door, reveals she has been told that Father will take her kicking and screaming
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
30th December 2024
Child states she will not go with Father at the door unless a deal is made to lower contact, Child goes back inside.
Planned contact
Monday - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
10th January 2025
Child states school do not know everything, that she feels forced to go from school, that I need to convince her and bring presents
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
14th February 2025
Mother cancels contact 2 hours before Father is due to collect Child from school, stating concerns need to be investigated.
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
21st February 2025
Child stated to Father that Mother has suggested that Father has rats in his house, that she is scared of rats, that she has read the court ordered parentin
g app and that Father is a liar, Child refuses to come
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
END
In addition the mother has installed a ring doorbell, don't know much about these but it's fixed to the wall, the no recording devices in the order was her insistence. Are my perceived breaches satisfactory justification of the order?
I have a CAO in place which states the following:
The Applicant must make sure that the child spends time or otherwise has contact with the Respondent:
From the week commencing DATE on alternate weekends, from a Friday to a Sunday.
b. During term time collection to take place from school on a Friday. In the event that there is a change of
circumstances for example, the father is to have a change of employment or in the event of an emergency,
handover may take place at the mother’s property.
c. Outside of term time collection to take place on a Friday from mother’s home.
No phones or recording devices to be present at handover.
A full list of breaches is below:
4th May
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
Mother was not happy for Child to stay overnight then stated she was too unwell for any contact
7th June
Planned contact
N/A
Actual contact
N/A
Mother states that the CAFCASS officer NAME has informed her that I did not want children. Mother asks me if I “want this” and offers to stop CMS payments in exchange for me not having contact with Child.
9th August
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
Mother states to Father that she has advised Child that it is CAFCASS's decision that she goes with him, Child states to Father that Mum says she does not have to go and that she if she does she can make a deal about reducing contact. Child leaves me to go into her home and brings Mother out to discuss reducing contact as set out in the order.
20th September 2024
Mother provides no update for 7 hours on Childs health after offering to do so in writing, when messaged she responds, Father offers to pick Child up, Mother stops responding. Refuses to rearrange
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
22nd November 2024
Weeks in advance of Childs tonsillectomy Father requested to swap weekends, Mother refused, then after op she was too unwell according to Mother
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
29th November 2024
Child stated she was too unwell to attend contact and would not come with Father, no assistance to support contact from Mother
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
20th December 2024
Child appears hesitant and fear of Father at the door, reveals she has been told that Father will take her kicking and screaming
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
30th December 2024
Child states she will not go with Father at the door unless a deal is made to lower contact, Child goes back inside.
Planned contact
Monday - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
10th January 2025
Child states school do not know everything, that she feels forced to go from school, that I need to convince her and bring presents
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
14th February 2025
Mother cancels contact 2 hours before Father is due to collect Child from school, stating concerns need to be investigated.
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
21st February 2025
Child stated to Father that Mother has suggested that Father has rats in his house, that she is scared of rats, that she has read the court ordered parentin
g app and that Father is a liar, Child refuses to come
Planned contact
Friday - O/N - Sat - O/N - Sun
Actual contact
None
END
In addition the mother has installed a ring doorbell, don't know much about these but it's fixed to the wall, the no recording devices in the order was her insistence. Are my perceived breaches satisfactory justification of the order?
