The Emotional effects post divorce

I am writing this to say that for any dads out there, my mother tried to alienate me from my father. 45 years on I still struggle with immense anger towards her. I have forgiven her but I will never forget that she put her feelings first and used me as a weapon. The person she hurt the most was me as my father married again. I will always love my dad despite his shortcomings and nothing she said changed that. She also tried to replace my dad with her new partner and I despised them both. She finally got divorced a second time and is a very unhappy person. Ultimately she got the exact opposite result of what she sought and she damaged my relationship with her irreparably. It didn’t take me to grow up to see what she did, I knew that she had let me down when it happened. Alienating a child from their source is one of the most destructive things a parent can do. I went through severe domestic violence with husband and ended up in a refugee with a 1 year old and a 3 week old baby. I took steps to protect us but I also tried my hardest to establish a routine for him to see his children. We are not together now and haven’t been for a long time. However, I forgave him absolutely and always tell my children about the best parts of their father. I defend him, because he had a very tough childhood but most of all because my children must be allowed to love him and not got involved in my feelings. Every child has the right to love whoever they choose. My children have two new siblings from their father who they love very much. Their mother is my friend and is an incredible human being.

That is both a tough and heartwarming story stellafilms. Maybe you'd like to post on the main forum - it might give some hope to some. Comments on the articles don't get seen as much sometimes.

I just wanted to say I haven’t been on this forum for a while because my children’s father was taken ill suddenly 5 weeks ago. We didn’t think he was going to survive and it’s been a very emotional time. But I am still planning to make a documentary about how men are treated by the courts.