Writing to school

[Peanut 21]

My partner is really struggling to arrange a meeting with his children's school.

We think it's necessary to update them on the situation as we are now no longer seeing his son.

Does anyone have tips on writing a letter to the school to arrange a meeting with the head or head of year?

 

[mva]

What are you hoping to get from the meeting ?

 

[Peanut 21]

Both children have been alienated from dad.
Family court, cafcass and children's services have run their course.
The childrens mother either ignores or rants at my partners reasonable messages to see his son and try and resolve things.
If my partner goes to the house it's the same ignore or rant response.
Neither child responds to calls or text messages from dad, me or any other family member this side.
We'd like the school to keep an eye on both children and/or provide support.
Our issue is that the mother has already triangulated the school pastoral lead into the alienation.
The problem with alienation and emotion abuse in general is
1) getting anyone to believe you
2) people taking what kids say at face value
3) kids being too scared to open up to anyone.

 

[mikeayo1891]

Both children have been alienated from dad.
Family court, cafcass and children's services have run their course.
The childrens mother either ignores or rants at my partners reasonable messages to see his son and try and resolve things.
If my partner goes to the house it's the same ignore or rant response.
Neither child responds to calls or text messages from dad, me or any other family member this side.
We'd like the school to keep an eye on both children and/or provide support.
Our issue is that the mother has already triangulated the school pastoral lead into the alienation.
The problem with alienation and emotion abuse in general is
1) getting anyone to believe you
2) people taking what kids say at face value
3) kids being too scared to open up to anyone.

Sorry that this is happening to your partner. I am/was in the same boat. The ex completely alienated my son and got the school and GP on her side. I wrote to the school several times but got blocked. They used safeguarding as an excuse despite the ex not being able to produce a court order preventing me from engaging with the school. The GP told me that they are getting conflicting info from both parties and so they will have to write to the court to get clarification. How ridiculous. All they needed to do was to ask ex to provide a court order that prevent me from accessing child information. Currently i am planning to report the GP to the Information Commisioner, the governmnent body who deal with Subject Access Requests.

However i got lucky couple of weeks ago when ex again changed child's school and i found out very quickly and got into the head teacher's ears first before ex could finness him. I explained the situation and let him know how i am concerned about child. The headteacher agreed with me and promised to provide me with regular info about my child unless ex provides a court injuction against it. Ex got wind of this and was very upset and tried to male trouble with head teacher but was too late. I had got in there first. My advise to your partner is to phone the headteacher to arrange a face to face meeting with school and discuss. This is better than writing to them. When you call they can hear your temparament and you can easily negotiate things better and headteacher cannot easily avoid/pretend like he doesnt understand you or avoid the topic. Also calls reduces delays. You'll be surprised the terrible things they have told the school about you.

 

[Roblox]

Hi

You've probably already checked this but do you know who the school safeguarding lead is

 

[Peanut 21]

Hi

You've probably already checked this but do you know who the school safeguarding lead is

Yeah, it's on their website