My wife (33) and myself (35) have been married for 6 years together for 11. We have one son (4).
After my sons birth my wife struggled with postnatal depression. Working full time and my wife needing me to do all newborn duties after work and through the nights cause she wasn't coping I really struggled and became suicidal. After 2 years it got easier and my bond with my son is incredibly strong and I was accustomed to doing the majority of his care. My wife started telling friends and family how we would start trying for our second and I told her I didn't want a second child as I felt it would be too much. She told me she would give me a year to change my mind. A year came and went and she started mentioning a second baby again which I told her I still didn't want another. I told her how I was suicidal during the first couple of years and she told me I was trying to "play a trump card" getting out of a second child. Things became heated and she told me how we had discussed before marriage we would have two children and if I denied her the right of having more she would make sure I would suffer as I'm making her "grieve the loss of a child she will never have".
A few months down the line of me not agreeing to more children, she told me she wants a divorce as she will find someone to have more kids with. I accepted her decision and told her she could have the house and we can do 50/50 custody. Soon after this I received a solicitor email for a minute of agreement towards the house and terms of me moving out. I told her I would prefer to have custody agreed first. She told me I'd have to hire a solicitor to talk to her solicitor about custody. I hired a solicitor and had an email sent out with the proposed schedule of 50/50. I received an email back from her solicitor stating my wife did not agree to 50/50 as it was not in the best interest of the child as she is primary care giver and the reason for the divorce was due to me struggling to be a parent to our son. I was absolutely blind sided and enraged and regrettably texted her saying if she's not giving me 50/50 then I'm not selling her the house. She told me how that's blackmail and will now go for a court order to get the house as she feels threatened and is a victim of domestic abuse. I am terrified and I don't want to make my life worse ending up with thousands in legal fees fighting lies.
I don't know what to do. I'm scared to move around the house or be near her with no one else around if she's looking at lying about domestic abuse to get what she wants in the end.
After my sons birth my wife struggled with postnatal depression. Working full time and my wife needing me to do all newborn duties after work and through the nights cause she wasn't coping I really struggled and became suicidal. After 2 years it got easier and my bond with my son is incredibly strong and I was accustomed to doing the majority of his care. My wife started telling friends and family how we would start trying for our second and I told her I didn't want a second child as I felt it would be too much. She told me she would give me a year to change my mind. A year came and went and she started mentioning a second baby again which I told her I still didn't want another. I told her how I was suicidal during the first couple of years and she told me I was trying to "play a trump card" getting out of a second child. Things became heated and she told me how we had discussed before marriage we would have two children and if I denied her the right of having more she would make sure I would suffer as I'm making her "grieve the loss of a child she will never have".
A few months down the line of me not agreeing to more children, she told me she wants a divorce as she will find someone to have more kids with. I accepted her decision and told her she could have the house and we can do 50/50 custody. Soon after this I received a solicitor email for a minute of agreement towards the house and terms of me moving out. I told her I would prefer to have custody agreed first. She told me I'd have to hire a solicitor to talk to her solicitor about custody. I hired a solicitor and had an email sent out with the proposed schedule of 50/50. I received an email back from her solicitor stating my wife did not agree to 50/50 as it was not in the best interest of the child as she is primary care giver and the reason for the divorce was due to me struggling to be a parent to our son. I was absolutely blind sided and enraged and regrettably texted her saying if she's not giving me 50/50 then I'm not selling her the house. She told me how that's blackmail and will now go for a court order to get the house as she feels threatened and is a victim of domestic abuse. I am terrified and I don't want to make my life worse ending up with thousands in legal fees fighting lies.
I don't know what to do. I'm scared to move around the house or be near her with no one else around if she's looking at lying about domestic abuse to get what she wants in the end.
