There is that as well - some people are just xxxxholes!I think for me its the total lack of moral fibre her and her entire family if I am honest.
Follow along with the video below to see how to install our site as a web app on your home screen.
Note: This feature may not be available in some browsers.
There is that as well - some people are just xxxxholes!I think for me its the total lack of moral fibre her and her entire family if I am honest.
Great advice. I don't let my ex get me angry any more - I know she would enjoy that and likes to try and engineer it. But what she does do to get to me - is stress my son out. Putting him in the middle and under pressure.I know I've gone off-piste here... ultimately what annoys me the most with my ex is the harm that she does to herself and thus the children. Every time she seeks conflict, is impaired by anger, lies, schemes, manipulate others against me all she is doing is self-degradation and harm to the most precious thing in her life, her own character and true self.
I think she is an intelligent and capable person, unfortunately she is crippled by mental health issues and bad parents.
Yes she makes me lose my personal balance from time-to-time, but I'm ever better to quickly regaining it and the more I do it, the more resilient I become. Her loss, my gain.
A few principles that help keep my mind sane:
- If anyone tells you that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer, "He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone".
- Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him
- The best revenge is not to be like your enemy
- Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?
Peace
I'm exactly on the same boat. The way I see it, the agents in the 'system' (AKA schools, social services, Cafcass) were all too keen to encourage the mother in her allegations of domestic abuse without ever challenging her (constructively of course) in her beliefs.My big concern for the kids is how do you protect them from a narcissistic mother? On the surface she's this wonderful caring mother so SS and courts don't see a problem.
No one can tell a child "your mother has mental problems". They will have to learn themselves once they gain life experience. Makes me sad and I'm not saying dads should quit but what the hell can you do!?
As a woman I've never felt a victim. I've never gone for the feminist bs because I just get on with my life. Having said that I've had a very stable 'normal' upbringing with 2 present parents. Both great male and female role models.I'm exactly on the same boat. The way I see it, the agents in the 'system' (AKA schools, social services, Cafcass) were all too keen to encourage the mother in her allegations of domestic abuse without ever challenging her (constructively of course) in her beliefs.
I was raised by a single mother and I'm all for women's rights and equality. My mom was a working professional who raised three children to be responsible competent adults.
What I observe in the system today, is a culture impregnated with the radical feminist agenda which in essence see and treat women as victims regardless because we live in a 'patriarchal society'. The implications of this ideology are huge. In essence, if you're a victim you cannot ever be responsible for whatever adversity (real or perceived) you have to face in your life. Nothing is ever your fault... Therefore, one is never taught to take responsibilities for their own actions, and to accept that good and bad things happen to good and bad people alike.
This is long and convoluted way to say that after a long and painful court battle in which the ex failed to prove her case, the 'system' continues to appease her in whatever way they can...
And there are many smart, brave and independent women out there speaking out for men that have been thrown under the family court bus. As a father of a little girl I wish nothing more in this world that she becomes a responsible and resilient adult no matter what life throws at her.As a woman I've never felt a victim. I've never gone for the feminist bs because I just get on with my life. Having said that I've had a very stable 'normal' upbringing with 2 present parents. Both great male and female role models.
That about sums it up. Some of these narcissist types pick on naive normal people deliberately....how she is so driven by her hatred for me that she can't see that her destructive ways are hurting our children. That she's a narcissist with delusions of grandeur. That she's a hypocritical religious nut job. That she has uncontrollable rage. The list is endless really.
How the hell did I end up marrying such a basket case? You live and learn (never getting married again!!!!!!!!!).
Dunno how i managed to do that?Did you mean to post that twice Scotay?
I know I've gone off-piste here... ultimately what annoys me the most with my ex is the harm that she does to herself and thus the children. Every time she seeks conflict, is impaired by anger, lies, schemes, manipulate others against me all she is doing is self-degradation and harm to the most precious thing in her life, her own character and true self.
I think she is an intelligent and capable person, unfortunately she is crippled by mental health issues and bad parents.
Yes she makes me lose my personal balance from time-to-time, but I'm ever better to quickly regaining it and the more I do it, the more resilient I become. Her loss, my gain.
A few principles that help keep my mind sane:
- If anyone tells you that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer, "He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone".
- Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him
- The best revenge is not to be like your enemy
- Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?
Peace
Absolutely this.This post speaks volumes, I can relate to everything that has been said.
I'd say the sheer stubbornness to accept the reality that two involved parents are better than one.