Hi Everyone,
Hope this will help others as it’s too late for me now.
Long story short: Divorced a cheating wife in 2013 with 3 loving children. Took a DNA test and thankfully are all mine. Finance hearing - 2 mortgaged houses - both in London - both working parents.
Children order: children live with the mother, alternate weekends and half of holidays with the father.
Finance order: each parent keeps one house. Father ordered to pay £1000/month until the youngest child will finish the educational grounds as a global order, so mother can afford expenses - child maintenance included.
In 2016, mother kicks out the older child. Went back to court in 2017. Also myself remarrying and having another child.
Financial order: went back to court and payments have been reduced to £400/month.
In 2019, ex-marries, sells the house in London and buys with cash cheaper house in Norfolk county. Since she moved, I disagreed with the travelling to be done only by myself and mother told the children I don’t care about them anymore. Long story in there as well as I haven’t seen the 2 children since. I’m back in court with that as well fighting for them.
Child maintenance has been established at £30/month since 2018-2019. I was not bothered too much about paying £400/month. But frustration is that the children saying don’t want to have anything to do with me anymore or anyone from my family side or old friends.
They sold the house and purchased an B&B in Lake Distrinct for adults only. Now it’s even harder to get up North and regain contact with them.
Went back to court in 2023 after hearing if mother re-marries, she shouldn’t receive maintenance anymore.
Judge dismissed my case as on the order was nothing mentioned about mother’s conditions.
There’s only the one when the youngest, which is 14 at the moment, will finish the school education.
I’ve asked the judge to send the money to a children’s fund account but he said they don’t do that in court.
My advice is to ask the judge at the financial hearings to put in writing mother’s changes of circumstances as well. If she enter a partnership, or get a better paid job, or anything that could affect the financial situations. Even your situation. In case you may get sick or out of work.
Orders these days are not issued properly and the lawyers do nothing about it.
Hope it helps.
Hope this will help others as it’s too late for me now.
Long story short: Divorced a cheating wife in 2013 with 3 loving children. Took a DNA test and thankfully are all mine. Finance hearing - 2 mortgaged houses - both in London - both working parents.
Children order: children live with the mother, alternate weekends and half of holidays with the father.
Finance order: each parent keeps one house. Father ordered to pay £1000/month until the youngest child will finish the educational grounds as a global order, so mother can afford expenses - child maintenance included.
In 2016, mother kicks out the older child. Went back to court in 2017. Also myself remarrying and having another child.
Financial order: went back to court and payments have been reduced to £400/month.
In 2019, ex-marries, sells the house in London and buys with cash cheaper house in Norfolk county. Since she moved, I disagreed with the travelling to be done only by myself and mother told the children I don’t care about them anymore. Long story in there as well as I haven’t seen the 2 children since. I’m back in court with that as well fighting for them.
Child maintenance has been established at £30/month since 2018-2019. I was not bothered too much about paying £400/month. But frustration is that the children saying don’t want to have anything to do with me anymore or anyone from my family side or old friends.
They sold the house and purchased an B&B in Lake Distrinct for adults only. Now it’s even harder to get up North and regain contact with them.
Went back to court in 2023 after hearing if mother re-marries, she shouldn’t receive maintenance anymore.
Judge dismissed my case as on the order was nothing mentioned about mother’s conditions.
There’s only the one when the youngest, which is 14 at the moment, will finish the school education.
I’ve asked the judge to send the money to a children’s fund account but he said they don’t do that in court.
My advice is to ask the judge at the financial hearings to put in writing mother’s changes of circumstances as well. If she enter a partnership, or get a better paid job, or anything that could affect the financial situations. Even your situation. In case you may get sick or out of work.
Orders these days are not issued properly and the lawyers do nothing about it.
Hope it helps.
