Very vulnerable and feel afraid. False allegations against me.

[Ash]

Sorry to hear she's been trying to poison the children against you. Make a diary note of what was said. I'm not sure you can do anything at this stage. Best way to handle it is to keep the kids out of the middle and reassure them that this must be a mistake and there is nothing for them to worry about as these are adult matters. What they hear from you is important, don't resort to criticizing the ex back.

Re the solicitors, I would just respond briefly (and your response will also be evidence for later) Eg

"Thank you for your letter. It is untrue that I tried to call Mrs Ex's phone twice on Tuesday - she must be mistaken. And I am not in breach of the undertaking. My phone records will verify this. "

I thought it was an undertaking? Or is it actually a non molestation order? If it is then adjust the wording appropriately, but a short simple, polite denial.

 

[MountainGoat]

Thankyou everyone for your ongoing support, It really means a lot.

I received stbx's statement for the court with her allegations. The document is labelled "Schedule of Findings Sought" and details all her allegations and is basically the same as before. I have space to add my replies to that, obviously denying it all.

I then need to produce my statement which I am doing so. It is so big I wonder if they will even read it! But I find no way to shorten it.

I've then been asked if I want to raise some allegations. Anyone else been in this situation?
I mean I want to say how she is lying through her teeth and that everything she has done has had a huge impact on the kids, but can I do that?

Can I bring up things she has done from the past? She seems to have done so. For example accusing me of something when it is actually her who has done that.

Can I bring up the fact she has killed my pets.

Can I mention that she involves the kids in adult matters?

How much can I throw into this allegations thing?


Many thanks for your help.