Hi all, I would appreciate your thoughts on this matter. Especially those who have experienced something similar to me.
I am a single father of 2 teenage girls, aged 17 & 14.
I divorced from their mother 12 months ago. We initially separated in Nov 2021. The eldest one was loyal to her mother and was unhappy with me, because of the split. She made no contact with me, over 2 years. The girls up until recently were living with their mother.
The girl's mother (ex-wife) sadly passed away a month ago.
In a very difficult and sad situation, I took both girls on and they have been living with me for the past month.
Having the girls back was okay, to begin with. However, I noticed that the eldest has still not forgiven me about splitting with her mother. Her body language is very negative and in general, is very disrespectful.
A couple of weeks ago, she told my mum that "she would never forgive me" following the divorce & separation of their mother. She also said that she "would put up with me for the next 3 years living with him in the family house, until they get the inheritance. He would be living in iscolation".
On the back of this, both my parents, family & close friends told me not to move back to the original family house.
At present, we are all living in a very small house (1 bedroom for 3 people) and the atmosphere is becoming toxic. If she does overstep the mark, I do pull her up & she does comply, but it is becoming a strain. I just cannot relax when she is around. There is too much bad feeling around the house.
Last night she threw a massive strop when I told her that we were not going back to the original family house. That was for financial and many other reasons.
She wanted to move back to the family house and get the inheritance when the youngest turns 18 in 3 years time.
Because she was so unhappy about this, she really loathed me again. She is now staying with her Aunt for up to a week.
I am very glad about this. It makes life for me in the house so much easier.
This may sound crazy, but I do not want her back.
Her being around just brings back memories of the dark days during the lockdown, ahead of my late ex-wife and I separating.
Her return would have a negative effect on my health & well-being.
I cannot see the auntie (ex-wife’s sister) keeping her for too long, as she has a small property also.
Please let me know your thoughts on this.
Thanks!!
I am a single father of 2 teenage girls, aged 17 & 14.
I divorced from their mother 12 months ago. We initially separated in Nov 2021. The eldest one was loyal to her mother and was unhappy with me, because of the split. She made no contact with me, over 2 years. The girls up until recently were living with their mother.
The girl's mother (ex-wife) sadly passed away a month ago.
In a very difficult and sad situation, I took both girls on and they have been living with me for the past month.
Having the girls back was okay, to begin with. However, I noticed that the eldest has still not forgiven me about splitting with her mother. Her body language is very negative and in general, is very disrespectful.
A couple of weeks ago, she told my mum that "she would never forgive me" following the divorce & separation of their mother. She also said that she "would put up with me for the next 3 years living with him in the family house, until they get the inheritance. He would be living in iscolation".
On the back of this, both my parents, family & close friends told me not to move back to the original family house.
At present, we are all living in a very small house (1 bedroom for 3 people) and the atmosphere is becoming toxic. If she does overstep the mark, I do pull her up & she does comply, but it is becoming a strain. I just cannot relax when she is around. There is too much bad feeling around the house.
Last night she threw a massive strop when I told her that we were not going back to the original family house. That was for financial and many other reasons.
She wanted to move back to the family house and get the inheritance when the youngest turns 18 in 3 years time.
Because she was so unhappy about this, she really loathed me again. She is now staying with her Aunt for up to a week.
I am very glad about this. It makes life for me in the house so much easier.
This may sound crazy, but I do not want her back.
Her being around just brings back memories of the dark days during the lockdown, ahead of my late ex-wife and I separating.
Her return would have a negative effect on my health & well-being.
I cannot see the auntie (ex-wife’s sister) keeping her for too long, as she has a small property also.
Please let me know your thoughts on this.
Thanks!!
