Hi All,
Shock, trouble yet again even though a revised more detailed contact order was approved by the judge.
Originally my ex was looking to restrict when I could take holidays with my child to a very specific two (separate) weeks in the summer. The other holidays are fine as set in stone almost but the judge didnt want to do the same in summer as it's such a long period and the judge said it's not reasonable to do the same in summer like my ex wanted as I cant guarantee I'll get those specific weeks off and we should be able to sort it ourselves.
So, it comes to arranging and she's basically saying no to anything but what she originally deemed acceptable in not so many words. Obviously not what is in the order, I can take 2 weeks together or separately so long as in summer holidays.
How best do I get around this without the need of pretty much going to court prior to every summer as that's not a viable solution and can only imagine what a judge would say?
To note, she never asks if it's ok to take her holidays - on occasion I'll get a message basically saying she is taking the holiday at X time, I don't get the option of saying that's not convenient etc but this is what she then says to me when I try to arrange something; should I take a more assertive approach and say 'This is the time I'm able to get off work so will have my summer holiday time then' rather than 'Can I take the holiday time on X date?'
Obviously I'd almost never say to her it wasnt convenient for her to take holiday time it's more the point of how childish she really is. I guess it makes it easier for her to be like that to me as she has residency
Mostly, instead of the above, I actually have to ask if she intends to take her holiday time on X week - there's just a severe lack of communication no matter how hard I try!
The contact order now states we both have to agree the holiday time by the start of the year annually so that's something at least.
Thanks again in advance for the help
Shock, trouble yet again even though a revised more detailed contact order was approved by the judge.
Originally my ex was looking to restrict when I could take holidays with my child to a very specific two (separate) weeks in the summer. The other holidays are fine as set in stone almost but the judge didnt want to do the same in summer as it's such a long period and the judge said it's not reasonable to do the same in summer like my ex wanted as I cant guarantee I'll get those specific weeks off and we should be able to sort it ourselves.
So, it comes to arranging and she's basically saying no to anything but what she originally deemed acceptable in not so many words. Obviously not what is in the order, I can take 2 weeks together or separately so long as in summer holidays.
How best do I get around this without the need of pretty much going to court prior to every summer as that's not a viable solution and can only imagine what a judge would say?
To note, she never asks if it's ok to take her holidays - on occasion I'll get a message basically saying she is taking the holiday at X time, I don't get the option of saying that's not convenient etc but this is what she then says to me when I try to arrange something; should I take a more assertive approach and say 'This is the time I'm able to get off work so will have my summer holiday time then' rather than 'Can I take the holiday time on X date?'
Obviously I'd almost never say to her it wasnt convenient for her to take holiday time it's more the point of how childish she really is. I guess it makes it easier for her to be like that to me as she has residency
Mostly, instead of the above, I actually have to ask if she intends to take her holiday time on X week - there's just a severe lack of communication no matter how hard I try!
The contact order now states we both have to agree the holiday time by the start of the year annually so that's something at least.
Thanks again in advance for the help