After some advice.
I do not drive. Ex relocated out of the county, because I do not drive, she does the lions share of the distance travelled, but the cost and travel time is about equal (this was worked out and agreed prior to the move)
Before the move it was agreed that the drop off time on a Friday would be 4pm at a train station which is about an hours travel from me, this was agreed in an informal parenting agreement. But since the move she hasn't been making drop offs until 6pm or after, which then means I have to get 3 trains home and do not get in with my daughter until after 8pm most of the time (if the trains run smoothly. For context my daughters bedtime is around 7pm every night and she's in a really good routine with this)
Ex refuses to speak to her employer to make adequate adjustments (I have and finish earlier every other Friday to accomodate) and keeps using traffic as an excuse, despite being able to make the commute in an hour. I personally think she's doing this to frustrate matters and use our daughter weaponising the drop off to cause disruption.
Daughter is shattered and not only am I loosing out time with her (I used to take her to her childminders every day when they were local and have EOW) it's affecting activities I took her to before she moved. She's up late and misses them and I'm relucatant to wake her up earlier as she clearly needs the rest.
I am arranging MIAM with the ex to get her to understand this is having an impact on our daughter, I think the lateness and having to get 3 trains (if they are running) isn't approrpriate. I've asked numerous times that if she can make the drop off 5pm, that then allieviates these issues and doesn't disrupt my daughters routine too much.
Will the court take this into consideration if it heads in this direction.
I am also learning to drive, ex has said she'll stop with the current meet and drop off in August next year if I'm not already driving by this time. Surely the court would not allow her to do this and stop my contact with my daughter.
TIA
I do not drive. Ex relocated out of the county, because I do not drive, she does the lions share of the distance travelled, but the cost and travel time is about equal (this was worked out and agreed prior to the move)
Before the move it was agreed that the drop off time on a Friday would be 4pm at a train station which is about an hours travel from me, this was agreed in an informal parenting agreement. But since the move she hasn't been making drop offs until 6pm or after, which then means I have to get 3 trains home and do not get in with my daughter until after 8pm most of the time (if the trains run smoothly. For context my daughters bedtime is around 7pm every night and she's in a really good routine with this)
Ex refuses to speak to her employer to make adequate adjustments (I have and finish earlier every other Friday to accomodate) and keeps using traffic as an excuse, despite being able to make the commute in an hour. I personally think she's doing this to frustrate matters and use our daughter weaponising the drop off to cause disruption.
Daughter is shattered and not only am I loosing out time with her (I used to take her to her childminders every day when they were local and have EOW) it's affecting activities I took her to before she moved. She's up late and misses them and I'm relucatant to wake her up earlier as she clearly needs the rest.
I am arranging MIAM with the ex to get her to understand this is having an impact on our daughter, I think the lateness and having to get 3 trains (if they are running) isn't approrpriate. I've asked numerous times that if she can make the drop off 5pm, that then allieviates these issues and doesn't disrupt my daughters routine too much.
Will the court take this into consideration if it heads in this direction.
I am also learning to drive, ex has said she'll stop with the current meet and drop off in August next year if I'm not already driving by this time. Surely the court would not allow her to do this and stop my contact with my daughter.
TIA