Hi all,
Not posted on here for a while as I have been getting my head down and adjusting to my new routine with my daughter and my new life.
I was one of the fortunate dads who now has 6 overnights and a Sunday until 5pm every fortnight. So basically 2-2-5-5 (exception of sleep over on Sunday). It went from 2.5 hours a week supervised and it took 11 months for me to my final hearing. During this time I experienced lots of emotional and psychological abuse just like a mass majority of you guys on here. I was referred to xxxxxx support by the police after a stalking and harassment issue which I accepted and they worked with me more or less all way through the court case and continued afterwards as well. Offering me 20 hours of specialist therapy for FREE!! Which is one of the best things I could have done and it’s helped me tremendously.
Recently I have started the process of financial remedy and we are going back to court again as my ex is using the exact same approach as she did with my daughter. Basically zero!! I explained to my solicitor that I am having a terrible financial crisis due to the CAO costings and I was concerned about the financial costings as I had no more money!! Totally broken financially.
They explained to me that now I am a full time student (studying law
) and a victim of domestic violence I will qualify for legal aid. I wasn’t convinced as I didn’t hear much positive stuff about guys being awarded legal aid. The odds seem to be stacked against us!! However, I followed their advice and contacted a legal aid solicitors. Along with a copy my “official” domestic violence letter we applied to bypass mediation and it was granted!! We applied for court fees to be waived is was granted!! My application for legal aid is very strong and solicitors said they don’t have any concerns it being granted. Find out very soon but I am very positive.
My point is accept all the help offered, don’t think you are weak by accepting you are a victim of domestic abuse. Seek advice, seek support and share your story with specialists who can really help you through the darkness. This could also help you legally when making such applications. As in my case.
My ex has just got notification of all this via my solicitor and of course her and her NPD mum is totally rattled! Demanding proof of DV, basically trying to prevent my legal aid being granted. They don’t have a leg to stand on! And they 100% will not receive any information of what, how, who regarding the DV. In the words of my solicitor “they can whistle”.
So in March 2023 I was accused of many false allegations. I jumped through hoops and fought for what my daughter deserved and succeeded.
Here in Dec 24 the situation has a done a full 180 with me now “officially” being recognised as a victim of DV - emotional and psychological abuse, emotional manipulation and coercion. This is now helping me with costings for the financial battle and enabling me to fight once again for my assets and belongings to offer my daughter a better life.
The irony hey!!
Keep fighting dads
Not posted on here for a while as I have been getting my head down and adjusting to my new routine with my daughter and my new life.
I was one of the fortunate dads who now has 6 overnights and a Sunday until 5pm every fortnight. So basically 2-2-5-5 (exception of sleep over on Sunday). It went from 2.5 hours a week supervised and it took 11 months for me to my final hearing. During this time I experienced lots of emotional and psychological abuse just like a mass majority of you guys on here. I was referred to xxxxxx support by the police after a stalking and harassment issue which I accepted and they worked with me more or less all way through the court case and continued afterwards as well. Offering me 20 hours of specialist therapy for FREE!! Which is one of the best things I could have done and it’s helped me tremendously.
Recently I have started the process of financial remedy and we are going back to court again as my ex is using the exact same approach as she did with my daughter. Basically zero!! I explained to my solicitor that I am having a terrible financial crisis due to the CAO costings and I was concerned about the financial costings as I had no more money!! Totally broken financially.
They explained to me that now I am a full time student (studying law
) and a victim of domestic violence I will qualify for legal aid. I wasn’t convinced as I didn’t hear much positive stuff about guys being awarded legal aid. The odds seem to be stacked against us!! However, I followed their advice and contacted a legal aid solicitors. Along with a copy my “official” domestic violence letter we applied to bypass mediation and it was granted!! We applied for court fees to be waived is was granted!! My application for legal aid is very strong and solicitors said they don’t have any concerns it being granted. Find out very soon but I am very positive.My point is accept all the help offered, don’t think you are weak by accepting you are a victim of domestic abuse. Seek advice, seek support and share your story with specialists who can really help you through the darkness. This could also help you legally when making such applications. As in my case.
My ex has just got notification of all this via my solicitor and of course her and her NPD mum is totally rattled! Demanding proof of DV, basically trying to prevent my legal aid being granted. They don’t have a leg to stand on! And they 100% will not receive any information of what, how, who regarding the DV. In the words of my solicitor “they can whistle”.
So in March 2023 I was accused of many false allegations. I jumped through hoops and fought for what my daughter deserved and succeeded.
Here in Dec 24 the situation has a done a full 180 with me now “officially” being recognised as a victim of DV - emotional and psychological abuse, emotional manipulation and coercion. This is now helping me with costings for the financial battle and enabling me to fight once again for my assets and belongings to offer my daughter a better life.
The irony hey!!
Keep fighting dads
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just gotta stay in the fight 
