The impossible situation

[Peanut 21]

This is more of a rant than anything because there is no simple answer.
Quite often my partner and I hear through a friend that her daughter (step sons best friend for years) has been told stuff by my partners son.
Recently he told her that he misses his dad and doesn't know why his mum won't let him see him.
The ex will message my partner 'son doesn't want to see you this weekend'. His son never says this.
Anyone with an vindictive ex knows how difficult these situations are.
We can't get near my partners son. He reads messages but doesn't reply and no-one answers the door.
We understand why he doesn't answer because he will get grief from his mum.
The school doesn't want to know.
Everyone cites the last court order which states it's up to son if he wants to see dad. But it's not. It's up to his mother.
PA truly is the impossible catch22 situation. You can't tell the child their ienating parent is the problem so they're left confused.

 

[bujanin]

The impossible situation. Seemingly insurmountable, definitely painful & frustrating.

Does Karen Woodal talk about this in any of her group settings? Sometimes she opens it up for questions from participants. She might have an opinion on this situation...

 

[Peanut 21]

The impossible situation. Seemingly insurmountable, definitely painful & frustrating.

Does Karen Woodal talk about this in any of her group settings? Sometimes she opens it up for questions from participants. She might have an opinion on this situation...

Yeah Karen Woodall is the best route for this sort of thing. We've been on a few of her webinars. The best one was writing to your child.
She acknowledges the frustration of professionals not understanding the situation.

 

[Ash]

I think it was Nick Woodall advised someone once, to keep an online presence. That children go secretly searching for you online. So make it easy for them to find you. How old is your stepson now?

 

[Ash]

This is more of a rant than anything because there is no simple answer.
Quite often my partner and I hear through a friend that her daughter (step sons best friend for years) has been told stuff by my partners son.
Recently he told her that he misses his dad and doesn't know why his mum won't let him see him.
The ex will message my partner 'son doesn't want to see you this weekend'. His son never says this.
Anyone with an vindictive ex knows how difficult these situations are.
We can't get near my partners son. He reads messages but doesn't reply and no-one answers the door.
We understand why he doesn't answer because he will get grief from his mum.
The school doesn't want to know.
Everyone cites the last court order which states it's up to son if he wants to see dad. But it's not. It's up to his mother.
PA truly is the impossible catch22 situation. You can't tell the child their ienating parent is the problem so they're left confused.

Other people will see what is going on. This may well come back to bite her. Have hope.

 

[Peanut 21]

We have hope but it's the waiting for the truth to come out that's the problem. Step-son is almost 12.