Ok I met a woman back in may last year… I had previously worked with her for in substance misuse services as a practitioner in drug treatment… I left the service after a few months.. we became friends over social media and didn’t speak for a year or so… I knew at the start she was married from when we worked together, but we always got on as friends. Anyway conversations developed and she informed me at the time that her and her husband had become estranged… she said that they had been going through difficulties and that she didn’t love him. She became a little flirtatious, which I expressed I wasn’t comfortable with given she was still married… she reassured me that the marriage was over, so we began to meet up over a few months things developed and all the way through we had shared lots of intimate parts of our lives…. She had two other children from previous relationships, one which was abusive and the second one she fell pregnant to a danish soldier who according to her had ptsd from being posted in various combat situations, she said that he ran back to Denmark because he was scared of becoming a father… I had some issues later on the year before and ended up in court charged with affray, I have various testimonials from people to say that I was trying to resolve an unfortunate situation and I just got caught up in the crossfire.. she agreed to be supportive and came to the court date… that weekend she fell pregnant after she had said we were going to move forward and get together after I had met the children… we had planned some kind of future together and we both wanted another child… so things went on I’d booked a private scan and we were spending more and more time together… I did question where her husband was in all of this given she’d taken her children to Florida shortly after falling pregnant… she said I was being paranoid and that I should perhaps seek help for anxiety from my gp, admittedly I did suffer with sleep issues and I managed to get that addressed.. I went onto Escitalopram and she also made me delete all the messages on social media plus my account and all of our pictures from my phone saying I don’t want you to use them against me. I thought this strange but did it (to a degree) I knew that all of my information is backed up onto clouds as I am quite tech savvy so although I’d deleted them initially they were still backed up elsewhere (lucky for me) anyway things started to break down from there, just subtly at first, then come September, well since then it’s been sheer hell… it was her wedding anniversary and I’d messaged her via text as normal, she seemed off and said to leave her alone, and it came out that her husband had sent presents ect in celebration of the anniversary… she said at first she was going to tell him about us and she said that she did. I then questioned whether he knew about it because I’d discovered I was blocked on his social media.. she stated and I’ve got it in email ‘if he knew he’s a bloody good actor’ then later she said he knew all along… my head is spun up ve challenged her on so many levels and there are so many lies and contradictions I don’t know what’s what… I’ve sent her an email to request a DNA and also suggested mediation to no end… I’m 99.99% sure it’s my child and that her intention was to get pregnant because her husband can’t do it, but it doesn’t mean I walking away…
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