Hi all,
I'm pulling my hair out here and could do with some helpful words and advice.
My son will be 15 in September and there is a court order in place and the summer should have been shared 50/50 with the first week with his mum. However, he was with me on Friday and about 10 minutes after I picked him up, I got a phone from the safeguards lead at school saying my son had spoken to them and he didn't want to go back to his mums at all. The school advised him to call the local family services team which he did.
He was on the phone to them for about 15 minutes and they then wanted to speak to me, after speaking to a supervisor, I was told that I shouldn't go against his wishes.
I informed his mum who just demanded I took him back and threatened court, setting deadlines etc.
My son had no contact until I suggested to his mum that she sent him a text to see if he would go, but he doesn't want to.
I don't want to go too much into detail here about the reasons, but he is scared of her and can't be himself around her. He said he's been planning this for weeks and says there is no way he will go back now because he knows she will punish him for this.
I'm massively caught in the middle, I can't made him go, and even if I could magic him there, I would be putting him somewhere where he is massively unhappy, so much so that he is willing to walk away.
My mind keeps going to me being charged with being in contempt of court, to my son being dragged out and back somewhere he feels not emotionally safe.
My solicitor has advised that I go to court to adjust the order, but I tried this 2 years ago when my son requested the same thing, but the courts decided not to "rock the boat" basically and keep things basically the same other than it now states he lives with both parents rather than with her and seeing me.
This is massively effecting my mental health and I feel caught between the legal position and my sons wellbeing.
I'm pulling my hair out here and could do with some helpful words and advice.
My son will be 15 in September and there is a court order in place and the summer should have been shared 50/50 with the first week with his mum. However, he was with me on Friday and about 10 minutes after I picked him up, I got a phone from the safeguards lead at school saying my son had spoken to them and he didn't want to go back to his mums at all. The school advised him to call the local family services team which he did.
He was on the phone to them for about 15 minutes and they then wanted to speak to me, after speaking to a supervisor, I was told that I shouldn't go against his wishes.
I informed his mum who just demanded I took him back and threatened court, setting deadlines etc.
My son had no contact until I suggested to his mum that she sent him a text to see if he would go, but he doesn't want to.
I don't want to go too much into detail here about the reasons, but he is scared of her and can't be himself around her. He said he's been planning this for weeks and says there is no way he will go back now because he knows she will punish him for this.
I'm massively caught in the middle, I can't made him go, and even if I could magic him there, I would be putting him somewhere where he is massively unhappy, so much so that he is willing to walk away.
My mind keeps going to me being charged with being in contempt of court, to my son being dragged out and back somewhere he feels not emotionally safe.
My solicitor has advised that I go to court to adjust the order, but I tried this 2 years ago when my son requested the same thing, but the courts decided not to "rock the boat" basically and keep things basically the same other than it now states he lives with both parents rather than with her and seeing me.
This is massively effecting my mental health and I feel caught between the legal position and my sons wellbeing.