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Seeking expert advice
- Thread starter K-dad
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I have the same issue. There are independent social workers who specialise in repatriation and rebuilding relationships, but it isn't cheap. google around and see what you find, but if you contact them, you need to be very specific with what you want from them.
I have found Karen Woodall seminars very helpful. It's not 1-1 but group meetings with advice on how to try to communicate with your child/ren.
She's starting a small support group in the autumn specifically for alienated dad's.
www.familyseparationclinic.com
She's starting a small support group in the autumn specifically for alienated dad's.
Parenting workshops and videos
View all our latest online therapeutic parenting events for parents, and book tickets, by following the link below:
www.familyseparationclinic.com
I highly recommend getting this book - it will help you manage the situation and have strategies - I found it a godsend. It's an easy read and you can dip in and out of various chapters. The key is to manage it at your end and know how to handle things with kids. Partly to protect them and partly to prevent your relationship with them being damaged. One of the authors, Amy J Baker, is a Parental Alienation expert.
Co-parenting with a toxic Ex
Do you have a court order in place for time with the children?
Co-parenting with a toxic Ex
Do you have a court order in place for time with the children?
It was social workers who greatly contributed to my children getting alienated.
@Peanut 21 if the other parent does not agree do you know if the court can order it, especially if it is deemed the best way forward?
I am looking for specific leads to expert advisors/therapists on the issue of alienated children. I said not legal advice.
The part about legal advice is that in order for a therapist to be used the mother needs to agree with it.
Or a court can order it if the mother doesn't agree, which is highly likely.
But the court will only order it if they feel it's in the Child best interests and the parent will pay for it.
NO, you can hire therapist privately!
You can't hire a therapist privately. If you did the court would see it as manipulative and things would go against you. Do you actually have proceedings going on at the moment or not? It would be the same if your ex engaged a private therapist - as the parent dealing solely with the therapist, she could bias the therapist.
I still recommend that book. Amy J Baker is an expert. However, if what you're looking for is "proof" of parental alieantion then you would need to apply to court with a Part 25 application, for a psychologist's report on both the parents (not the children). Not a therapist. That is very expensive - at least £7,000. Unless the Mother agrees to psychologists reports which is highly unlikely if she is an alienator.
The psychologist would see both parents and can diagnose things like personality disorder (in an alienator) or just generally report on the psychology and attitude of the alienating parent. They can also recommend what the court do about it - eg transfer of residency, re-unification therapy, no contact with the alienating parent for a period of time or supervised only.
A psychologist's report is about the highest level of evidence you can get for family court - more clout than Cafcass. Judges will see that and follow the recommendations.
I still recommend that book. Amy J Baker is an expert. However, if what you're looking for is "proof" of parental alieantion then you would need to apply to court with a Part 25 application, for a psychologist's report on both the parents (not the children). Not a therapist. That is very expensive - at least £7,000. Unless the Mother agrees to psychologists reports which is highly unlikely if she is an alienator.
The psychologist would see both parents and can diagnose things like personality disorder (in an alienator) or just generally report on the psychology and attitude of the alienating parent. They can also recommend what the court do about it - eg transfer of residency, re-unification therapy, no contact with the alienating parent for a period of time or supervised only.
A psychologist's report is about the highest level of evidence you can get for family court - more clout than Cafcass. Judges will see that and follow the recommendations.
Treatment of Parental Alienation: Guidelines for Mental Health and Legal Practitioners
Mental health clinicians and legal practitioners can learn more about parental alienation and its treatment here.
So this is an American article but it does discuss the type of therapy that is helpful in PA and may help your search
What exactly is it you want? You have one chance to explain, courteously, before you get banned.
Karen and Nick Woodall are experts (psychologists) - not sure if they're still doing consultations or not. You could try contacting them. But I think they will still want the agreement of both parents as Peanut mentioned. If they are doing consultations it will be expensive. If you don't have the agreement of both parents, then you need to go the court route or just follow the advice in that book I mentioned.
Karen and Nick Woodall
Training with Karen and Nick provides you with expertise which is second to none in the field of parental alienation. Drawing upon their joint expertise and proven experience in reunification of alienated children and their families, Karen and Nick enable you to understand, at depth, the reality...
www.familyseparationclinic.com
Also could you apologise to Peanut who has already linked information that would help, that you were asking about.I have found Karen Woodall seminars very helpful. It's not 1-1 but group meetings with advice on how to try to communicate with your child/ren.
She's starting a small support group in the autumn specifically for alienated dad's.
Parenting workshops and videos
View all our latest online therapeutic parenting events for parents, and book tickets, by following the link below:
So what is your situation? Are you seeing the kids regularly or not at all? And are there any court orders in place?
Great … seeking help and this kind of attitude. Doesn’t bode well for proceedings and bet your ex will milk it. Brother it’s frustrating all this but keep a lid on your emotions man. It will backfire in the court room