Hello guys,
So, I have had S7 report completed.
I saw a letter written by my 8 year old son to the judge saying that I hit him in the back and slapped his sister in the face. He said he misses me and wants to see me, but he is afraid I might hit him again and he would prefer an adult be present.
Cafcass have written in their report that there is no proof and it is not illegal to smack a child as long as no harm. However, they would recommend it be addressed since it is a concern for my son.
Please note that I have never used any form of physical chastisement on my children.
They have therefore made the following recommendations:
1. that I complete a parenting course, initial supervised contact and S7 addendum.
2. they also recommended a separate parenting together course for myself and mum.
I have no problem with completing the courses at all. In fact I would be happy if anyone can send me a link for any of the court approved parenting courses.
My concern is how my 8 year old son was manipulated into writing a letter to the judge telling lies about me. I suspect mum must have told him that is the only way, otherwise he would never see his daddy again.
Should I just let this slide and focus on re-connecting with my children considering the recommendations. I feel the longer contact is delayed the more the kids are prone to manipulations. OR is it worth the effort to take this up at the next hearing? I know mum is trying to put me on supervised care with the children for her own selfish interest. My concern here is the impact of further manipulation on the children and her end goal. Once she sees that this goes unchallenged, there's is the possibility that she would do worse.
So, I have had S7 report completed.
I saw a letter written by my 8 year old son to the judge saying that I hit him in the back and slapped his sister in the face. He said he misses me and wants to see me, but he is afraid I might hit him again and he would prefer an adult be present.
Cafcass have written in their report that there is no proof and it is not illegal to smack a child as long as no harm. However, they would recommend it be addressed since it is a concern for my son.
Please note that I have never used any form of physical chastisement on my children.
They have therefore made the following recommendations:
1. that I complete a parenting course, initial supervised contact and S7 addendum.
2. they also recommended a separate parenting together course for myself and mum.
I have no problem with completing the courses at all. In fact I would be happy if anyone can send me a link for any of the court approved parenting courses.
My concern is how my 8 year old son was manipulated into writing a letter to the judge telling lies about me. I suspect mum must have told him that is the only way, otherwise he would never see his daddy again.
Should I just let this slide and focus on re-connecting with my children considering the recommendations. I feel the longer contact is delayed the more the kids are prone to manipulations. OR is it worth the effort to take this up at the next hearing? I know mum is trying to put me on supervised care with the children for her own selfish interest. My concern here is the impact of further manipulation on the children and her end goal. Once she sees that this goes unchallenged, there's is the possibility that she would do worse.