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Has anyone any experience with psychological assessments?
I am quite convinced that my ex has a severe personality disorder.
If an assessment is ordered then why is it ordered? What’s the criteria? Is it easy to hoodwink the professional?
Ex is making allegations that I have personality disorders/mental health issues etc.
what’s the likelihood of me asking for us both to be assessed?
 
I have experience of being accused of all of my ex's faults. It was hilarious, everything she threw at me was a description of herself.

I realised gradually that her legal team wanted me to make allegations back. It slowly dawned on me that they knew the court would not spend enough time to get to the bottom of what was going on. Thankfully, I did not throw stones back at her. The judge never said a word in my favour. But, he did come down on my side. It is not a fair process. You cannot win by countering her allegations. Throwing stones back will just show the court that they need to decide between warring parties. I suggest it is better to leave room for both parties to be included.

Play the long game. Any swift conclusion is likely to go with the status quo. Not losing, is the victory. The process, is the punishment.

Your ex likely wants you reduced to nothing, my ex did. Focus on being there for the kid(s) whatever happens. A big victory in court is useless if the child(ren) don't have your back. Extended periods away from you are your ex's biggest weapon.

Keep the child(ren) close. They need to know you well enough to never be convinced that you are a danger. My ex has tried to corrupt our child's mind continually. Being there every week is what has saved me. My order is shit, less than default, but it works.
 
You can ask for psychologists reports on both parents. It is one way of showing if an ex has a personality disorder, or is alienating, or unlikely to ever follow orders. However you usually have to pay and it can cost 7k upwards! On some occasions the court pays but I think the situation would have to be very specific for that and probably after a case has been going on for a long time. But it would have to be on both parents. So both parents are assessed - which is reasonable.
 
I truly believe that my ex has a personality or is suffering with a bi-polar disorder.
I can see it clearly when I think of all the things she has done and things that just don't add up.
Is there any way I can ask for her to be looked into? Her epilepsy also plays with her mind and she can believe something one day and not know what she was doing the next.
 
MountainGoat said:
I truly believe that my ex has a personality or is suffering with a bi-polar disorder.
I can see it clearly when I think of all the things she has done and things that just don't add up.
Is there any way I can ask for her to be looked into? Her epilepsy also plays with her mind and she can believe something one day and not know what she was doing the next.
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Do you have ongoing court proceedings?

Do you have evidence that your ex's medical conditions are impacting the child?

Do you have any documents that evidence a basis for your concerns? E.g. A social worker or CAFCASS referring to your ex's diagnoses?

If the answer to at least two of these questions is yes, there may well be a safe way of asking. Even if not, you can still ask. But, be careful the request isn't doesn't damage how you are perceived. Suspicion and assumption are not good grounds for asking if you are the 'non-resident' parent. It is easier for a 'resident' parent because they are not trying to change the status quo.
 
My partner went through a psychological assessment, as did the ex.
The court ordered it as the case had been going on for years.
Unfortunately the psychologist was unsuitable and was an expert in the wrong field.
It was a really stressful process and the report was heavily biased towards the mother.
It needs to be a psychologist who specialises in personality disorders, family dynamics and PA.
 
Where do I start, my battles with my ex are well known on here.

During a court session due to my ex simply ignoring each and every order and making up some crazy accusations about myself the judge order psychological testing to be carried out on both of us.

Findings on me, no problems or issues found.

My ex on the other hand was said to be delusional and have no form of self-control or thinking skills.

This was proved right when she was convicted of multiple non-mol and restraining order breaches, jailed and subsequently sectioned.

On another note, she is due to be released into a supported accommodation next month so no doubt this merry-go-round is about to start up again….
 
Peanut 21 said:
@Scotay yours has got to be one of the most extreme cases on here.
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Yeah police, my victim support officer, have already been in touch and on top of the lifelong restraining order they are going to take out a Stalking Prevention Order out on the ex.

This is all well if the actual person pays a blind bit of notice regarding orders which hasn't been the case so far.
 
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Scotay said:
This is all well if the actual person pays a blind bit of notice regarding orders which hasn't been the case so far.
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She will be under supervision by the probation service, so if the orders are disregarded she'll be back behind bars very fast.
 
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She will be under supervision by the probation service, so if the orders are disregarded she'll be back behind bars very fast.
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No probation, her full license ran out over a year ago, she has been held in a secure hospital so she now leaves with nothing but the Restraining and Stalking Order on her.
 
Resolute said:
Good luck Scotay.

Don't give her an inch. Clamp down on the slightest violation immediately.
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Unfortunately it will only be a matter of time, she simply cannot control herself.

I heard she's planning to apply to the court to get the restraining order lifted! 100% she knows it will get denied but its all about causing us a level of harrasment and this is her using the court system to do it.
 
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