So me and stbx are approaching the first holiday period where, as the relatively new CAO is not specific, we had to agree how the holiday was split equally. We managed an agreement, she gets first week, I get second, starting on the Sunday, ( I get first weekend with them). However, only a few days after agreeing, stbx is trying to dictate a change to the agreement. It would be inconvenient for me to change to what she is now asking for, but it could be done. Part of me is thinking just agree to it for a quiet life, part of me is thinking if I agree, will it send her the message that she is in control and embolden her to carry on dictating and messing me about? If I dig my heals in and insist we stick to the original agreement, what happens if stbx is not at home when I drop the children off on the first Sunday, meaning I have to keep the children into the first week, effectively forcing me into going along with her change to the agreement? Would I be in breech of the CAO if I kept the children on the first Sunday night but returned them as soon as I could there after? Assuming I did manage to return the children somewhere like what we agreed originally, what would happen if stbx then withheld them when I was due to collect them? (Think I know the answer to that last bit - probably f%ck all).